It’s All In The Family

This movie is going to bomb big time.

PRMACHINE Says:

December 17th, 2006 at 12:05 am
She was crazy in love with BBT too.
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CORRECTION: She thought she was, she came out later and said, pertaining to BOTH her marriages, “I know now, I married my friends.”

Natalia Says:

December 17th, 2006 at 12:08 am
women hate Angelina ,from now on, she is going to see how much. Let the movie comes out.

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Most of the people screaming for her at the premiere were women accrding to eyewitness accounts. Angelina has a pull like no other woman in Hollywood right not. Those who hate don’t even know her, only what they ASSume. That movie is a CIA movie, not a chick flick. The formation of the CIA is way over most American’s head. They would rather see Borat or a chick fluff like The Holiday (yawn). Here’s to Angelina & Brad never ever doing comercial twinkie type films and more creative, edgy, noir films.

My, my, you’re just to smart for me Observer2, what a war of words. I might as well just roll over and die!

I need my medication now. ASAP. I am getting delusional now

Explains why some women don’t like Angie.

Why Do Women Hate Other Women So Much…?

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The reason I ask the above question, is because over and over again, I see examples of how much we, as women, seem to dislike other women.

It happens a lot in the work place.

I once had a female boss who could have been Attila the hun in another life, but do you know what, I thought she was f*cking great. All the men who were subservient to her thought she had balls instead of a ******, (although I did catch one or two of them drooling over her, must have been the power thing) and the women thought she was Hitler disguised as Barbie, and thus, she became the number one focus of their ***** fests.

I once asked a colleague why she hated our boss so much. Do you know what her answer was? Well here it is for you.
“Because she acts like a man”.

Now apparently, acting like a man is a cardinal sin amongst other women. Being strong-willed is frowned upon, and is seen as an affront to sisterhood.

Sisterhood? What sisterhood?
It seems to me that it’s ok to be a ball buster as long as you’re not female. The fact was, most of the females in our company at that time, hated my boss because she was attractive, intelligent, strong-willed, had a good job, and had other men in her power. She was just too much competition for the average woman. She should have been applauded for being all those things, yet because of those very characteristics, she was villified by other female members of staff.

Another example is the Big Brother T.V show. In this country, every year without fail, the strong-willed women, and the women with big personalities always get voted off first. We’ve had six big brothers so far, and in all of those years, we’ve only had one female winner (and that was because all the men were either ******** or snooze- worthy). Nadia , who was last year’s winner doesn’t count because she was a transsexual. She used to be a frickin’ man.

Women in politics is another good example of woman on woman hate. When Margaret Thatcher was Prime Minister over here, she was often referred to as the Iron Lady, The *****, and a whole host of other derogatory names, that had nothing specifically to do with her brand of politics. Why? BECAUSE SHE WAS A STRONG WOMAN.

In the few introspective articles that I’ve read about Condoleezza Rice , (articles written by other women incidentally) she’s often referred to as a cold woman who would benefit from a good lay. Did we ever say such a thing about Colin Powell? Why not just say, ‘she’s a tough talking politician who takes no prisoners?’ Why are emotive words and derogatory terms used by other women, when it comes to describing another woman?
In romance books, we generally seem to love the hero, and more often than not, find the heroines irritating, and even if we like the heroine, we don’t gush to the same extent as we do when a writer creates a truly wonderful hero. Why is that?

I, myself am guilty of this also. I find it hard to tolerate wimpy women, but ball-busting heroines who are overly aggressive, piss me off too. What is the happy medium?
We talk about feminism and sisterhood a lot, but I sure don’t see any shining examples of it. Even within the romance community, there is more bitching and backstabbing that goes on (and I’m not just talking about the readers) than I’ve ever known. This has to be because the industry is run mostly by women for other women.

Why is it so hard to support each other without letting petty jealousies get in the way? As women, are we generally more hateful than men? Scott?

Scott said…

I have often wondered that myself Karen. It seems like when guys get pissed off at each other, a few hours later were are talking over a beer at the bar like nothing happened.

I haven’t seen it so much in the work place, because I work with so few women. And one of the only women that I worked with on a day to day basis had a very laid back attitude about it. Most of us guys used to refer to her as one of the guys.
I don’t know why women would hate another woman for being a “ballbuster” in the work place. Quite honestly, though I hate this fact, that is about the only way they get anywhere and gain the respect they need in business (whether outright earning it or demanding it). Sure, that’s a stereotypical statement, but there is more truth to it. And maybe women don’t want to see it have to be that way and take it out on the woman that is using those tools to get there. I remember interviewing for a job, either out of high school or a couple of years later when I was laid off. The company’s VP was a woman, and the head of engineering was a women. Very odd in the engineering business (like I said, I don’t work with many women at all). They asked me in the interview if I would have a problem working for women. I started to laugh and said, “No, why should I?” It was probably taken the wrong way, but to me it really didn’t matter. And it seemed to be a big deal to them that they were in the positions they were. Maybe that would rub other women the wrong way, as if they are saying they are stronger and more adept then other women. I really don’t know. This is one of those subjects that reminds me that I’m glad I’m a guy. LOL

Dionne said…

Scott makes some really good points. Men are a lot more laid back, and don’t seem to have the same issues with each other that we do. A lot of it does stem from jealousy though.

Marianne LaCroix said…

It is jealousy. Yeah, definitely. And I like Ms.Rice. I think she is kick ass and I’d vote for her to be first female pres.

Eve Vaughn said…

You are absolutely right. If you even mention Hilary Clinton’s name around a conservative around here it’s alway ***** this and ***** that. They even have “stop her now” campaigns. Wow, talk about hate and it has a lot to do with the fact that she’s a strong outspoken woman. Despite all the social advances we have made as women, we’ve been programmed to think that being go getters and strong makes us a *****. It was the reason there were so many bodice ripper romance novels in the seventies and eighties.

Desiree Erotique said…

Hi Karen,
I think a lot of it has to do with women who confuse strong with bitchy. My Mama was like this, as much as I hate to say it. Her father raised her as the son he never had, and she has lived her life trying to get his approval. In doing this she relinquished all claim to femininity. She hated the fact that I liked to wear dresses, she resented “sissy” women (those who like cosmetics and dressing attractively), and I spent a childhood listening about how “strong”, “manly”, ect., ect. she is. Of course, she was bitchy in attitude. I love her, but its a fact.

When my aunt lost both breasts to cancer and suffered the post-depression of the experience, Mama had no sympathy at all. She simply couldn’t understand why a woman would want to have surgery to replace something “useless”, as she deemed breasts altogether. She refused to hug me because she viewed that as “gay”. It is a sad, pitiful situation to see a loved one like this. But I really feel this reflects society’s weird confusion with femininity and weakness.

I feel that we can be strong of will without emulating male traits. Nature created the sexes different for a reason. If She didn’t want us to be different then men could conceive, lol. There’s nothing un-empowering to be tolerant of the idea that the sexes are complimentary of one another, instead of asexual equals, or worse, rivals. Probably a lot healthier, too.

The strongest women I know embrace their feminine side as well as their feminine determination without a psychological need to bully others.

44 million is a lot of money, yeh right.

Liza Says:

December 17th, 2006 at 12:20 am
My, my, you’re just to smart for me Observer2, what a war of words. I might as well just roll over and die!
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Please, don’t get my hopes up.

natalia, are you talking about that ANUSTON’S films? Did you support her? I am sure will not support Aniston even if you pay me a million dollars. WAIT..I’ll take the million & RUN!

Observer2—you’re too cute. Thanks for coming out to play! You guys are so easy to get going! Tootles!

Jennifer Aniston has made 15 movies, 12 of them have bombed.

The only three “hits” were because of:
1. Jim Carrey
2. Ben Stiller
3. Vince Vaughn

Hope Angelina give you some money.