Kate Gosselin: Bed, Bath & Beyond!

Kate Gosselin you are an awesome mom! People need to stop complaining and being so jealous of your life! Your family will make it through this hard time, I just know it!

I don’t think that kids are enjoying all the attention.. poor Leah, she didn’t choose to be a famous kid…

yeah that is Alexis.

gosh, you guys are good, you can tell those kids apart::) only two I can tell apart is Mady cause she’s such a sourpuss (she’s her mom’s mini-me) and aiden who wears glasses.

Was it Steve the bodyguard or a new bodyguard?

Cue : , “this is boring”….”.they aren’t stars”,…..”This site is going down hill” …..”leave them alone”… ” Boring”…….most which are from The Kate Fan Club… because it’s a tough job defending the indefensible.

@E:

joel has not been out yet either and he was with the bodyguard with his sun glasses. LOL

**YAWN** Omg Jared , You are obssessed with her!
I find her foul and VERY un-intresting,
It’s like how many places in the world she can look like a b!tch,
b o r i n g ! !
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**Give us so REAL celebrities!! not some trashy (b!itchy) hosewive with a reality show on cable**

Kate should seriously stop doing the show for the kids sake. They don’t need this, they need to be normal kids.

There’s a reason why people don’t like her. It has nothing to do with jealousy, it has to do with her attitude that the world revolves around her. Her children are nothing more than commodities, props, and accessories. They are also her meal ticket. She is pathetic.

is this news? Stalk much??

Thats definitely Alexis, not Leah. Leah has shorter and darker hair. Poor Lexi, she must have been tired. Shes usually the one that falls asleep in the car ride.

Yes we all need a bodyguard to go to Target and BBB in Reading, PA - Give me a break Kate! you’re such a joke! You’re a celebrity ONLY IN YOUR OWN MIND.

Two things that have been nagging me about this famewhooore:

1. WHY ARE HER ANKLES SO FAT???

2. SHE LOOKS SO OLD, I THOUGHT SHE WAS 45, NOT 34! WOW. SHE LOOKS SO MUCH OLDER FOR HER AGE.

steph @ 06/14/2009 at 2:47 pm

“Omg, you guys are nutcases. Kate Did NOT plan this out. Alexis is a 5 year old girl, and yea, she is used to having cameras around her a lot, but not scary looking people with flashing cameras wherever she goes. THESE ARE CHILDREN you are talking about, she IS NOT using them. Enough is enough. What did Kate do to you? She has made mistakes, but you guys are far from perfect since you’re bashing a family. This is coming from a 12 yr old girl, and I know you crazy Kate haters will hate me too, but leave them the hell alone.”

OMG, the show has you duped. You do not need the flash in sunlight. That was totally faked on the show with the flashing bulbs. Kate gave her permission to the paps according to the local police. Keep up girl! Kate is playing YOU for a fool! Didn’t you see her show her boobs and ass yesterday to the TLC cameraman and the paps? She’s going all Britney, honey….get used to it, girlfriend!

2 questions…
1) why is she carrying a 5 year old child?
2)why does this woman need a body guard in reading pa…or anywhere for that matter?

I am SO over these people. J&K plus 8 is not an endearing show anymore. It’s a show about a reality show. It’s about getting free stuff, going on free vacations and product placement.

I feel absolutely NO sympathy for either of them. They are money grubbing famewhores who care about being in the public eye more than protecting their family and marriage. These people have enough money for 10 lifetimes. They do not need to continue with this show. Kate’s excuses for keeping the show are pathetic and ever changing. First, she wanted to document the sextuplets as babies because they were too busy to do so themselves. Then it was because she didn’t want to disappoint the fans and withold the fans the pleasure of watching her kids grow up(like it’s anyones business to watch their children on tv.) Then it was so her kids could go to college(even though the state of Pennsylvania gave ALL her kids scholarships to state schools after the birth of the sextuplets.)

Kate and Jon Gosselin cannot have it both ways. They can’t sell their family as a commodity and then cry about the attention they get from it. They are solely responsible for the attention, good and bad, that they are receiving. Those kids might not feel it now, but 5, 10, 15 or 20 years down the road, those kids are going to have a lot of issues from their parents selling them out.

She’s carrying Alexis because she’s scared the child about the “P-People”, you know Kate with her histrionics and drama. She also seen the attention paid to Katie and Suri yesterday on just jared.

We see right through ya, Kate. Get on home.

@realblond36: Their fans are crazy, when she had a book signing in PA it was INSANE, police from neighboring towns were called and people were chasing her car and banging on the windows of the book store like animals..
If i were her i would like a body guard with me at all times too.

PR pic..like all from the last few weeks…….What a good mommy….. she wants you to believe…..after the criticism over her being on the road 20+ days a month for the last year.

@chelsea:

I live 25 minutes from reading pa and it’s the most boring place on the planet. NOBODY who lives here gives a darn about them. Everybody thinks she is a joke for waltzing around town with a bodyguard. AGAIN, all this crap is from her own doing. If Kate wanted to give her kids a normal childhood, she would walk away from her show and then 5 minutes later, nobody would give a damn. They would be yesterdays news. Great for her kids, but not so much for the diva.

Kate Gosselin is a wonderful person i don’t care what other people think. She is a good mom and nice to other people… i think she is just trying to look out for her kids. I wish people would just leaver her alone!

I’m a fan. I think the show is great. The kids are adorable.

The hate comments are ridiculously stupid.

#18 ella —– Has it right

@sister6:
Sounds like jealousy. How come no one complains about the Duggars exploiting their children or the Roloff exploiting theirs?

@abbie:

Once you make yourself famous and sell your family, including children who cannot decide for themselves if they want to be watched by millions of weirdos on tv, you are open to any and all criticism. ANY and ALL.
Why do their fans think they have the right to talk down to people who are genuinely concerned for the well being of small, vulnerable children is beyond me. Just because you like the show and think the kids are cute and Mom and Dad are great parents does not excuse the fact that children are being hurt and exploited and will continue to do so for their entire lives, all because their parents wanted money and fame. Enough is enough. I stopped watching this show in season 1 because it made my skin crawl, watching this train wreck. I don’t find it amusing to see a family falling apart and parents doing nothing to stop it.
Kate Gosselin is not stopping the filming because she does not want to deny her “fans” the pleasure of watching her kids grow up. HER EXACT WORDS. If that reasoning isn’t sick and disturbing, I don’t know what is.

Jared fix it, it’s Alexis not Leah.

@realblond36:
How do you know they are being exploited? Are the Duggars exploiting their children???? I’m asking because you keep repeating it without anything to back that up.

You sound very bittered and jealous.

The popularity of J&K+8 proves that the dumbing down of America is nearly complete. Never did I think people could sink so low.

I read where Steve Neild got REAL COZY with Kate and Mady while in San Deigo. Did you see Leah imitate mommy while they were in North Carolina on vacation? Leah was posing in her little bikini like mommy and then she was hugging Steve the body guard like Mommy. Say, where is Steve?

That’s probably what the Bush Crime Family planned all along.

@ Barbara Bush @ 06/14/2009 at 3:40 pm

The popularity of J&K+8 proves that the dumbing down of America is nearly complete. Never did I think people could sink so low.

@emmerson:
Interesting. Please, answer this question.

Are the Duggars exploiting their children?

that is alexis !

@realblond36:
But you don’t go to the Duggars’ thread and call the parents fame whores do you?

I can’t always tell Alexis from Leah, but Hannah looks different so I always know when it’s her. The boys are very easy to tell apart! Cara and Mady look nothing alike.

Boring! I used a coupon there today….I wonder if Katie Irene did too? I see the kid is loving the attention…not!

If you want to have your wonderful husband Jon back Kate, and stay together, I would suggest having at least 6 more extracted from your belly. You keep them litters coming Kate . God will send his love along with each new little one.

Alexis comes home after the trip

Leah: Hi Alexis how was it
Alexis: I had fun being exploited today
Collin: Did Mommy tell you to hide from the p-people so you look like Katie and Suri
Alexis: Yeah, She said it would boost the shows ratings
Joel: Did you see her kiss the bodyguard
Alexis: Yeah she did it around the back of the store and she did not know that i could see
Aaden: Why did she take you through the front and not through the back door
Alexis: Because she said she likes people to see us so she can have more money
Cara: So we are her meals, House and Life
Mady: Yep basically we work and she gets the money
Alexis: She said she cares about us Cara and Mady?
Mady: She does not care we work for her
Hannah: Is mommy taking me out tommorow to boost the ratings.

Kate pinched the kid when she dragged her out of the car. Then she mumbled, “snuggle up to me you idiot prop or you’ll never see a drink of water again.” Kate contracts the media to camp out on her door step. She also tips us as to what Jon is up to. She knows that you got to be in it to win it. Face time is what it takes to clinb the ladder.

Mady: Hey Lexi did mommy say you can never have water again
Alexis: Yeah we had to be like Katie and Suri otherwise i was not allowed water ever again

No nips and no cookie today Kate. Good job keeping the goods under wraps. You never seemed to have a problem before.

I live 30 min. from the Gosselin’s and I have to tell you NO ONE likes them but no one would give them the time of day either. To have a body guard is stupid. They might need the security more at home as all the pedophiles who bought their scrapbook clogs traffic daily…

Cara: Yay you got us a bouncy castle
Kate: Do not touch these are props to make me seem like a good mother
Collin: Why?
Kate: So i can have more money
Hannah: Can i jump on it
Kate: When the p-people come so i can look good

Where else is Kate going to go on a Sunday morning. Her church caught on to her scams and asked her and her family to leave.

PA womehen her little fans will say all of PA is jealous sure right her fans come in here and call everyone fat ugly house wifes so smart . Not even her husband like her he got better looking then her that must piss kate off that jon can get better looking 23 year olds. Kates kids hate her to even her parents kates a shrew.

@E:

I realize that the show is getting worse every episode with Kate and Jon’s relationship fading away, but I still watch it because i love the kids and i support Jon and Kate. I could care less what anybody else thinks about them. The fame and media and tabloids is making this family go down the drain. And people saying stuff about them tops it off!

are you serious? a bodyguard? is this a joke?

@nicole:
Nicole, seriously…You didn’t need to write that much stupid in one post. Spread it/repeat it around like the haters on this thread. Repeat, repeat,…repeat.

It will let people know you are sane and not jealous. BTW, you know you don’t make sense, right? Just asking…

im so stupid

I hate kate and her kids.

@abbie: I didnt write this i hate kate

cara, step ,abbie all the same stupid ass people oh emma to.

Finally smartened up and gave Steve a day off. I’m sure he’s sad he missed the crotch show and braless pink dress day. Did TLC or her PR agent finally explain to her that good mothers aren’t prancing around giving everyone an eyeful of their junk? Amazing she does own a pair of shorts.
The kid needs to be allowed to walk and skunk top needs to not pretend that she’s Katie Holmes. When will this fame ***** go away! Poor kids I’d hate to have to pay for their therapy.

kate thinks she better than everyone else? yeah she a ho lot better

#89 nicole

Are you saying that the Duggars are not compensated for their show? The Duggars let TLC film their very frightened daughter in the dentist office. The Duggars wheeled a comatose old man out in front of the cameras, robbing him of his dignity.

Look at me!!!!….. I’m a star…love my cool shades?………..the occasional head toss?… the I don’t care pout?….I’m taking runway lessons at home in front of my full-length mirror. …..how do you like the child sheild?, great accessory …huh.

Watch the Kate Haters come out in full force yet again today. They probably could not wait to wake up and jump to their puters to search their gossip sites for Kate Gosselin, to be able to cut down her appearance yet again, her clothing, how she carries or doesn’t carry a child, how she like anyone may enjoy time with a child to go shop, some bonding time, or to get out of the house awhile, yet the Kate Haters are there again to micro-criticize her every move, every look, every thought and on a Sunday too. Nice Christians you Kate Haters are, obsessed, yes, delusional, yes, any better then Kate, no, in fact uglier in and out and jealous of this woman. The Kate Haters are crazy stalkers, unhappy housewives who hate their own appearance and lives so they come on here to project toward Kate Gosselin, all that really bothers them about themselves and their lack of parenting (because they are too busy on these gossip sites and their GWOP site and other Hate Kate blogs, like little ants in an ant community, busy at work, their fingers are typing out hate every moment, they cannot help themselves, to get 1 comment or 100 negative, vile, hate filled comments out there. They think their opinion matters, that if they speak out they can bring Kate Gosselin and her family down or hurt them, they think Kate has nothing better to do then come read their comments (now that is delusional). Why would anyone being photographed want to come look at comments, knowing people are going to be mean, who in their right mind would even read such nonsense of people who don’t even really know them, they think they do, because *gasp* they watch their Gosselin show every Monday (so they can recap on their hate sites and cut down again, her every look, move, what she says, how she interacts with kids, anything positive Kate does do, they are there with a conspiracy as why she dare do something good. Maybe some of you hateful housewives should go spend your Sunday taking one of your children shopping or to the park, to laugh and swing, rather then sit again on your ever growing large patooties filling your hearts with more hate today. I promise you, to go be with your family, may hurt for awhile, and you may get the shakes and DT’s from not being able to monitor the hate Kate for the day on gossip sites or your hate Kate blogs, but you will make it, just take a deep breath and go for it, a walk, mow your lawn, work in your garden, go spend time with your kids, watch a funny movie together, family time, and *gasp* whoa, if you spent a Sunday loving God a little and studying His word and what He feels about His children spewing hatred, because what you do on to another, you do to Him! Enjoy your day, choose love over hate, and some of this, just really is not your business to comment on, making fun of ankles, what some one wears is over the top to the true concern of child exploitation, so it is showing who is jealous and not happy with themselves. If that is what you want to display hidden behind a screen name and computer monitor, in your hearts you know you state hate because you are really unhappy with yourself, not Kate, but you feel good hurting some one else and being a bully, so if you find pleasure in someone’s pain, if you are happy doing that, one day you too will be judged, even for your online comments, no different then saying it to some ones face, which most of you wouldn’t if you could not run and hide. Take care. ;) PLAY nice little hatefilled housewives. I’m going to go enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful day God gave to us all today. Love it! The Birds singing, the sun, the pretty flowers and lawn, that I keep in shape and can go for walks, lots to feel blessed about today, rather then hateful jealousy of some one else. *smiles and kisses and hug to the unhappilies* Hate Kate bloggers, take the day off of hating just for one day, you will feel so good about yourselves and maybe discover new friendships that are healthier to have then feeding off of one another’s gossip and hate, or you may discover new interests, or just feeling better about being a better you by resisting the temptation to gossip, display jealousy or anger or hatred. Free will is a choice, that we all will be judged on one day. What is in your heart does matter, you can choose love, not hate.

#4 and #5 You guys beat me to the correction. That is Alexis and considering how much of an extrovert she usually is, it saddens me to see her hiding her beautiful face from the paps. Reminds me to much of little Suri’s hate of the paps.

Kate you look great, and it’s great you spend one on one time with some of your kids, or make special days/outtings for them as individuals. I think it’s a great day for some mommy and me shopping and a great day to go be together. Cute photos, and Katers looks very pretty. Pray for you one day soon that people will give you and your family peace and stop with the judgment and criticism. Keep loving your kids and yourself and God, it’s all good with Him. He knows your heart Kate, the haters have their own construction on their hearts to work on, pray for them, I am saying one right now for all the haters, that their cold hearts start to melt and be taken over with love for all humans, we’re all God’s children, He loves us no matter what and that is how we should love one another. Not our job to judge or be mean, it takes away from the beauty that the heart could share and make a positive difference in some one’s life every day. Hate robs people of so much of their living, may it be replaced with love and may the haters find some inner peace God, so they will want to love rather then gossip and hate and find and renew new friendships that are healthy, not friends who hate or like you only if you hate some one they feel you should hate. Work in their hearts today God, I hate to see so many people so unhappy. God Bless!

I hate kate shes the worst mom and wife ive ever seen what a witch.

@LOVE yOUR nEIGHBOR AND eNEMIES: you need god lady stop judgeing people your self you come on here an call people haters yeah she and her husband like haveing bang time with other people get a clue dumb ass.

Fans of Jon & Kate Plus 8 have watched Jon and Kate Gosselin drift apart in the midst of a cheating scandal. As the couple celebrates their tenth anniversary on June 12, many wonder how much longer Jon and Kate will be together. After all, they’ve already started going their separate ways. Back Next

Fans of Jon & Kate Plus 8 have watched Jon and Kate Gosselin drift apart in the midst of a cheating scandal. As the couple celebrates their tenth anniversary on June 12, many wonder how much longer Jon and Kate will be together. After all, they’ve already started going their separate ways. Back Next

Jon Gosselin caught on videotape - sneaking around with a hot young blonde while wife Kate and their eight children were hundreds of miles away!

Surveillance cameras recorded Jon’s secret date at a New York bar, and the footage - obtained exclusively by The ENQUIRER - reveals the 32-year-old reality TV star abandoned his blonde companion and scurried out the bar’s back door when he spotted a photographer.

His new friend is 23-year-old Hailey Glassman, daughter of the plastic surgeon who performed 34-year-old Kate’s tummy-tuck surgery - documented on their TLC network show Jon & Kate Plus 8.

Jon’s secret “date” with Hailey was caught on videotape after the two slipped into the deserted dining room of the Bourbon Street bar in Nyack around 3:30 p.m. on May 24.

“Jon and the young woman sat across from each other in a booth in the back of the restaurant,” an eyewitness divulged.

“She was hanging on every word he said, and looked really happy to be with him.”

While Jon has publicly denied he’s romantically involved with Hailey, a friend of Hailey’s confirmed to The ENQUIRER she’s been secretly meeting with Jon.

While Jon was sneaking around New York, a beleaguered Kate and the couples 8 kids were enjoying a working vacation on Bald Head Island, North Carolina with Kate’s bodyguard reported BF, Steve Neild.

To see ALL the surveillance video frame grabs, learn about Jon’s out-of-control boozing and see what Kate & Steve plus 8 did– GET the FULL STORY you won’t find anywhere else - get the new ENQUIRER before it’s sold-out!

Jon Gosselin caught on videotape - sneaking around with a hot young blonde while wife Kate and their eight children were hundreds of miles away!

Surveillance cameras recorded Jon’s secret date at a New York bar, and the footage - obtained exclusively by The ENQUIRER - reveals the 32-year-old reality TV star abandoned his blonde companion and scurried out the bar’s back door when he spotted a photographer.

His new friend is 23-year-old Hailey Glassman, daughter of the plastic surgeon who performed 34-year-old Kate’s tummy-tuck surgery - documented on their TLC network show Jon & Kate Plus 8.

Jon’s secret “date” with Hailey was caught on videotape after the two slipped into the deserted dining room of the Bourbon Street bar in Nyack around 3:30 p.m. on May 24.

“Jon and the young woman sat across from each other in a booth in the back of the restaurant,” an eyewitness divulged.

“She was hanging on every word he said, and looked really happy to be with him.”

While Jon has publicly denied he’s romantically involved with Hailey, a friend of Hailey’s confirmed to The ENQUIRER she’s been secretly meeting with Jon.

While Jon was sneaking around New York, a beleaguered Kate and the couples 8 kids were enjoying a working vacation on Bald Head Island, North Carolina with Kate’s bodyguard reported BF, Steve Neild.

To see ALL the surveillance video frame grabs, learn about Jon’s out-of-control boozing and see what Kate & Steve plus 8 did– GET the FULL STORY you won’t find anywhere else - get the new ENQUIRER before it’s sold-out!

Jon Gosselin caught on videotape - sneaking around with a hot young blonde while wife Kate and their eight children were hundreds of miles away!

Surveillance cameras recorded Jon’s secret date at a New York bar, and the footage - obtained exclusively by The ENQUIRER - reveals the 32-year-old reality TV star abandoned his blonde companion and scurried out the bar’s back door when he spotted a photographer.

His new friend is 23-year-old Hailey Glassman, daughter of the plastic surgeon who performed 34-year-old Kate’s tummy-tuck surgery - documented on their TLC network show Jon & Kate Plus 8.

Jon’s secret “date” with Hailey was caught on videotape after the two slipped into the deserted dining room of the Bourbon Street bar in Nyack around 3:30 p.m. on May 24.

“Jon and the young woman sat across from each other in a booth in the back of the restaurant,” an eyewitness divulged.

“She was hanging on every word he said, and looked really happy to be with him.”

While Jon has publicly denied he’s romantically involved with Hailey, a friend of Hailey’s confirmed to The ENQUIRER she’s been secretly meeting with Jon.

While Jon was sneaking around New York, a beleaguered Kate and the couples 8 kids were enjoying a working vacation on Bald Head Island, North Carolina with Kate’s bodyguard reported BF, Steve Neild.

saying bad things makes me sad….bad people who use others…..not so much ……babyjesus hate people who criticize ..me only like positive things like more of everything!!!….babyjesus only see what he wants…not interested in both sides or balance ……just good things and happy things..,…babyjesus love sticking his head in the sand….babyjesus live in fantasy land…..stay away from the bad side of life ….sweep it all under rug…….only good … lots of it …..babyjesus happy now….

Thursday, June 4, 2009
Jon & Kate. . . Too Late?
A train rolled into my tiny little neighborhood three years ago. About a year later, that train was making some noise as the wheels were starting to come off the tracks. Now, that train - as everyone with eyes and ears knows - has full-scale derailed.

For some reason, the world is enjoying watching this train wreck. To be honest, those of us who knew enough to see it coming can easily fall into the proud and self-righteous “I told you so” mode. To be honest, I have. And, it’s even easy to wish ill-will on people who seemingly did everything they could to steer their train off the tracks through an endless series of unwise decisions and caving in to the ways of the world, thereby bringing all of this on themselves. Yep, let them get what they deserve. The Gosselin family has gotten themselves into a ridiculous mess. We watch them tearfully ask “Why?” and “What can we do?” and they look even more ridiculous. The curiosity factor is off the charts. Jon and Kate Gosselin and their kids are in trouble. We all know it.

I’ve remained publicly silent on this clan (that’s become more than a blip on the pop culture radar) for a long time. Numerous people have suggested to me that I offer some analysis publicly, because I’m a neighbor and the President of an organization that promotes the well-being of kids The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding. It wasn’t easy being quiet when you could clearly see what was happening. However, I think it was the right thing to do. As those who are around me know, there were times that I brought them up over the course of the last two years when I’d be out speaking. But it was all in passing. Youth workers at some conferences who could answer the fun little trivia question - “What current TV reality show features the CPYU office building?” -could win a book. Yep, our office was sometimes caught during filming. As the popularity of Jon & Kate Plus 8 grew among Christians who were thrilled to be watching one of their own, just about everywhere I went to speak I would tell people where I was from in Pennsylvania. . . which would be followed excitedly with the same question from unknowing and faithful fans who had blindly partaken of the J & K kool-aid: “Central Pennsylvania! Do you live near Jon and Kate?!? Oh, I love them!” I would quickly answer, “Yes. And you need to stop watching.” My response was usually seen as heartless and would elicit protests. Sometimes a few words to back up my opinion were enough to convince people that reality TV is not reality. Usually, people looked at me like I was a heartless liar. . . more evidence of the fact that good-natured people sometimes naively prefer to believe their own fantasies, rather than the truth. There were good reasons why I’d answer that way. More on that in a bit. . . but first, some history.

I live in a little neighborhood in Elizabethtown, Pennsylvania, whose name has recently gotten increased publicity. It’s called Westbrooke. We moved here in 1991 and were part of a small, very friendly, and intimate group of 37 young families who built our homes on the two streets that made up our development. We literally all knew each other. There was one way in and one way out of neighborhood. We walked, talked, played, cooked-out, shared meals, and waved at each other all the time. After a few years, a couple streets were added and our neighborhood more than doubled in size. Still, we remained fairly close. In fact, this Saturday we’re having our annual neighborhood yard sale. There’s still only one way in and one way out of our neighborhood. All this to say, while it has been decreasing in recent years because of mobility and change, friendliness and community has always been a mark of our neighborhood.

One of those original houses was built by the parents of the female half of my next door neighbors. I can look out my CPYU office window (which sits just across the street from that one entrance to our neighborhood), and still see that house. Tragically, my neighbor’s father succumbed to cancer several years ago. Then three years ago, his widow was killed in a car accident. The brick house they had built on Andrew Avenue went up for sale. I can still remember my next door neighbor coming over in 2006 and saying, “We sold the house. Guess who’s moving in?” I had no clue. He replied, “The sextuplet family.” I had read about the local family in the newspaper because of the multiple births. But I knew little more. At that point, I don’t think there was even a show. We were getting new neighbors. Not celebrities.

To be honest, I thought how fortunate it was that the Gosselin family was moving into a good neighborhood, especially under their circumstances. This was a family who would most likely need lots of help and support, and our neighbors had a history of generously giving it. In fact, back in 1991, the neighborhood pulled together to care for a young bed-ridden mother-to-be who lived in the house just across the street and to the left of the Gosselin house. She was locked-in a high-risk pregnancy with quadruplets. My wife, along with most of the other wives in the neighborhood, cooked their meals, tended to their needs, and sat for hours each day with the expectant mom over the course of several months. If help was needed, Westbrooke was a great place to find it.

But from the time they moved into the neighborhood until the time they left, generous offers of help, meals, etc. were turned away. . . and usually not with even a polite “thank-you.” The stories are multitude. And, they are consistent. These offers were not given to celebrities, but to neighbors in need. Nobody in our neighborhood was starstruck. . . simply because these were neighbors and not stars. In addition, there was a growing awareness that something was just not right. One member of the marriage would walk the kids in their six-seat stroller and was willing to engage neighbors in friendly conversation. The other immediately developed a reputation for being rude, self-centered, and demanding. Those in our neighborhood who had known that person for years were not surprised. Sadly, the one who ruled the roost set the tone, and it wasn’t good. Eventually, we never saw the friendlier half of the couple.

And now we know. The family’s choice to live their lives in front of the world has yielded undeniable evidence that the train has not only derailed, but wrecked.

Why am I passing this on? It is not to gossip. It is simply to pass on some limited yet accurate context about a situation that has gone public because the primary characters in this sad, sad drama have chosen to throw themselves - and their children - in the limelight. My blog is occasioned by the Gosselin story as told publicly to the world by the Gosselins themselves.

For a minute, remove all the rumors and stories (many of which are true), and think only about how the family has chosen to present themselves. Think too about the fact that when the cameras are on, we usually put on our best smiles and best behavior. . . and then think - long and hard - about what that best behavior has been on this particular show. Then, imagine what life is like and how people act when the cameras aren’t rolling. After taking that all into consideration, we shouldn’t be surprised by the train wreck that’s taken the world by storm.

The Gosselins moved out of our neighborhood just before last Thanksgiving to a new million and half dollar home. Ironically, we’re consistently told by one member of the family that money is scarce. To be honest, our little neighborhood is relieved that the publicity blitz went into high gear after they moved. Yes, the media still shows up to film their empty house and interview neighbors. I saw them here yesterday. But for me personally, knowing that the story is continuing to unfold, knowing that all kinds of people are responding and throwing around opinions, knowing that this has become the cultural event of the year, and knowing that 8 precious little lives are being forever shaped for life by both their parents’ decisions and the decisions of a world enamored by the story, I decided to break my silence and answer the question many who know I was a neighbor have recently asked. . . “What do you think?” So, let me weigh in. . .

First, none of us should be surprised by any of this. As I said before, all it took was a set of eyes, a couple of ears, and some basic common-sense and elementary-level discernment to know that the train that’s wrecked was coming off the tracks for a long, long time. In my travels I am continually stunned and even saddened by the parade of starstruck people who adore this family as Godly heroes and Christian role models. Where is the discernment? It’s not that the Gosselins are high-profile Christians who are going through the everyday struggles with sin. Rather, they’ve chosen to live a high profile life that is increasingly about eagerly embracing another way. Without a doubt, the kids are cute. Without a doubt, raising 8 young kids has to be difficult. But is that reason enough to overlook and even justify the horrible things that are being done and happening. . . and embrace a family that is obviously self-destructing before the world because of their habits and choices?

Second, we have to wonder why the train was allowed to continue to wreck even though it was heading off the tracks for a long, long time. Sadly, I think one or both of two things have happened. On the one hand, the people closest to Jon and Kate who could have been advising them wisely may have become so starstruck and enamored themselves that they didn’t want to compromise their ability to rub elbows on a regular basis with celebrity. They didn’t want to tell the emperor that he - or she - is not wearing any clothes. They didn’t say anything. On the other hand, the stars themselves are so self-absorbed that they don’t want to listen to anyone who might offer some good counsel, and yes - even Biblical advice. My guess is that it’s a combination of both. Those who have been known to have spoken up have been systematically removed by the powers-that-be from the system. The result is the emperor can remain naked without being bothered. . . all the while enjoying the fact that the whole world’s watching. Sadly, we’re now at the point of becoming embarrassed by the emperor’s ignorance.

Third, this train wreck called Jon & Kate Plus 8 offers a clear window into the human condition. . . and ourselves. This is a couple whose deep, deep narcissism has made them oblivious to each other, their kids, their extended family, old friends, wise living, and perhaps even the God they so blatantly claim to serve. It appears they’ve forgotten the everyday reality of their human depravity and the constant dangers that it poses. They’ve let down their guard. The evidence seems to point to the fact that they are eagerly engaged in the pursuit and worship of created things, rather than their Creator. Life has become about the things they can get. Kate is embracing the life of a diva. But they are not alone. Each of us has the seeds of the same thing sitting in our own hearts. While you and I can sit where we sit and pronounce it as wrong - and we should - I wonder what I would do if I had the opportunity to receive what they’ve received. I know what I should do. I can say what I think I would do. But I know what I’d be tempted to do. So if we are going to fulfill our responsibility to speak up and criticize, it had better be done in a humble spirit that recognizes beyond a shadow of a doubt that each of us is only one bad decision away from the same thing. . . or perhaps we’re already dealing with this stuff but not for the whole world to see.

Still, that’s not reason to remain silent when things are going horribly wrong. The chaos surrounding any kind of wreck requires analysis and intervention from people who still have their wits about them and who have some sense of not only what’s going on, but what to do. People who have been in wrecks usually aren’t in any condition to tend to themselves. They need outside help, and they need it fast.

Which leads me to this. . . we need to respond. Silence is not an option. One of the great lessons of history is that those who remain silent and uninvolved when a group of people are being oppressed (in this case, 8 small children) are not helping, but hurting the situation. Those people who choose to remain silent and not intervene by speaking up, have chosen to actively participate in the oppression. It’s guilt by silence. In this case, two parents and 8 little kids are laying wounded on the side of the road.

So let me humbly suggest some responses. . . because I don’t think it’s too late for this couple and their family. God is in the business of redeeming all kinds of situations. To Jon and Kate, it’s not too late for you to save your marriage and your family. To those who care about Jon and Kate (and we all should), it’s not too late to do your part to see this thing redeemed.

To Jon and Kate. . . I don’t regularly watch your show. I’ve seen bits and pieces as I channel surf, and sometimes I stop to watch just to see, well, who in the neighborhood you’ve caught on camera. I even thought I might make it on a few times. . . like the time I interrupted the kid’s bike-riding lessons by driving my car into the camera’s line of sight on a trip out of the neighborhood. I did, however, see the recent clip where you, Kate, lamented what’s happening through your tears. According to my newspaper, so did ten million other people. You expressed confusion and said you didn’t know what to do. I know you’re smarter than that. . . you have to be. Here’s what you need to do. . . and I believe you know it. . . pull the plug. Pull the plug and pull it now. The key to a redemptive and healthy resolution to this entire fiasco lies in your hands. From what I know, I think Jon will be right with you. Realize that the temptation will be to carry on so that you can accumulate fame and fortune. But as someone you and I both claim to know once said, “What does it profit a person to gain the whole world. . . and then lose his soul?”. . . or, her husband and children? Please understand that I pass this on with a full knowledge of my own weakness and depravity. I trust you understand that I say this humbly. Keep it all plugged in and you will be one very rich and famous lady. You will also be facilitating a life under public scrutiny for your kids. They will not have a childhood. Keeping it plugged in will steal their childhood, steal your family, and promote a culture of celebrity-obsession gone wild. Pull the plug and pull it now. Kate, if you don’t see what’s happening all around you then you are a very confused woman who is so out of touch with reality that you need an intervention. If you do see it and you choose to keep it all plugged in, then you’ve exposed what’s most important to you. Don’t be like the rich young ruler who knew what he had to do, but walked away very, very sad. Jon and Kate, if you don’t pull the plug, shame on you for what you’re doing to your kids. Kate, don’t let your definition of “multiple blessings” move from your 8 children. . . to the fame, fortune, and freebies that are now filling your life. If that’s what you choose to do, you are exploiting your kids. If you don’t pull the plug and pull it now, shame on you.

To TLC. . . you used to be called The Learning Channel. I wonder, what are you teaching Jon and Kate’s kids? What are you teaching your viewers? I wonder, do you ever think about the welfare of those 8 children over and above advertising revenues and skyrocketing ratings? The right thing for you to do is the same. Pull the plug, and pull it now. If not, you need to be held accountable. You are exploiting the Gosselin kids and their family. . . and we know you’re getting rich. And Jon and Kate, if TLC doesn’t let you go. . . then you know for sure that they don’t care one bit about you and your kids. TLC, if you don’t pull the plug and pull it now, shame on you.

To the Paparazzi. . . . are you kidding me? Put your cameras away. Leave these parents and their kids alone so that they can do the right thing and get their family back on track. I know you don’t care, but you are contributing to the ruin of 10 lives. Not only that, you are throwing chum that’s feeding a sick frenzy of celebrity-obsession that sells lots of magazines and makes lots of money. . . and which is also ruining an entire generation. Shame, shame, shame on you!

To Zondervan. . . Kate’s publisher. . . . and one of my publishers. . . you need to take a long hard look at what you are doing to promote a worldview, parenting style, and message about faith that I know doesn’t line-up with what has historically been your solid commitments as a publishing company. What Kate Gosselin is now promoting is a faith that is nothing more or less than the world with a thin veneer of Jesus-talk. I know you care about children, youth, and families. You’ve published numerous books to build the Kingdom of God and to equip strong families. For several reasons, you need to step up and pull the plug. Sure, Kate can go somewhere else and find a publisher if she so desires. But if the books you are selling don’t line up with reality, or if the books you are selling are contributing to a media fascination and frenzy that’s causing the loss of both childhood and the lifelong emotional health for 8 precious children. . . then please, pull the plug. If you don’t, shame on you.

To my brothers and sisters in Christ who have become so enamored with this family. . . exercise some discernment and do the right thing. Wake up and see what’s really happening with the Gosselin family. Women, if Kate is your role model. . . then shame on you. Pull the plug on your TV and your star-struck fascination and give this family back their privacy. Don’t watch. Realize that the two best things you can do for this family is to 1) pray for them, and 2) leave them alone. This may sound strong, but I truly believe it. . . If Jon, Kate, TLC, and others are exploiting this family, well, you know that makes us accomplices if we’re buying into it all. If you can’t funnel your fascination into this family away from voyeurism and exploitation and into prayer and privacy. . . then shame on you!

To the churches that are booking Jon and Kate to come speak. . . pull the plug. If you are truly about building the Kingdom and doing ministry. . . pull the plug. Do the Gosselins and your congregation a favor and don’t try to draw people in to your building by capitalizing on their celebrity-status. If you don’t break the engagements, shame on you.

And finally, to me. I know that I’m a part of the culture, the media world, the church, and the human race. While choosing to be silent would promote the downfall of this family, any words I speak about this situation have to come from an introspective heart that seeks humility, love, the Kingdom of God, and the greater good. What I say to myself is what I will say to everyone who is thinking about the Gosselins: You are no better. The seeds of what you don’t like in them live in you. Your life and family are far from perfect. Keep looking in the mirror to see where you might be doing the same things. . . although not in a highly-publicized and public way that the world can see. And if you/I don’t. . . then shame on you/me.

Jon and Kate, it’s not too late. You know that. This mess you’ve gotten yourselves into can be cleaned up and fixed. My prayer is not only that you will do the right thing, but that the rest of us who have contributed to derailing your family will do the right thing as well.

Thursday, June 4, 2009
Jon & Kate. . . Too Late?
A train rolled into my tiny little neighborhood three years ago. About a year later, that train was making some noise as the wheels were starting to come off the tracks. Now, that train - as everyone with eyes and ears knows - has full-scale derailed.

For some reason, the world is enjoying watching this train wreck. To be honest, those of us who knew enough to see it coming can easily fall into the proud and self-righteous “I told you so” mode. To be honest, I have. And, it’s even easy to wish ill-will on people who seemingly did everything they could to steer their train off the tracks through an endless series of unwise decisions and caving in to the ways of the world, thereby bringing all of this on themselves. Yep, let them get what they deserve. The Gosselin family has gotten themselves into a ridiculous mess. We watch them tearfully ask “Why?” and “What can we do?” and they look even more ridiculous. The curiosity factor is off the charts. Jon and Kate Gosselin and their kids are in trouble. We all know it.

I’ve remained publicly silent on this clan (that’s become more than a blip on the pop culture radar) for a long time. Numerous people have suggested to me that I offer some analysis publicly, because I’m a neighbor and the President of an organization that promotes the well-being of kids The Center for Parent/Youth Understanding. It wasn’t easy being quiet when you could clearly see what was happening. However, I think it was the right thing to do. As those who are around me know, there were times that I brought them up over the course of the last two years when I’d be out speaking. But it was all in passing. Youth workers at some conferences who could answer the fun little trivia question - “What current TV reality show features the CPYU office building?” -could win a book. Yep, our office was sometimes caught during filming. As the popularity of Jon & Kate Plus 8 grew among Christians who were thrilled to be watching one of their own, just about everywhere I went to speak I would tell people where I was from in Pennsylvania. . . which would be followed excitedly with the same question from unknowing and faithful fans who had blindly partaken of the J & K kool-aid: “Central Pennsylvania! Do you live near Jon and Kate?!? Oh, I love them!” I would quickly answer, “Yes. And you need to stop watching.” My response was usually seen as heartless and would elicit protests. Sometimes a few words to back up my opinion were enough to convince people that reality TV is not reality. Usually, people looked at me like I was a heartless liar. . . more evidence of the fact that good-natured people sometimes naively prefer to believe their own fantasies, rather than the truth. There were good reasons why I’d answer that way. More on that in a bit. . . but first, some history.

I live in a little neighborhood in Elizabethtown, Pennsylvania, whose name has recently gotten increased publicity. It’s called Westbrooke. We moved here in 1991 and were part of a small, very friendly, and intimate group of 37 young families who built our homes on the two streets that made up our development. We literally all knew each other. There was one way in and one way out of neighborhood. We walked, talked, played, cooked-out, shared meals, and waved at each other all the time. After a few years, a couple streets were added and our neighborhood more than doubled in size. Still, we remained fairly close. In fact, this Saturday we’re having our annual neighborhood yard sale. There’s still only one way in and one way out of our neighborhood. All this to say, while it has been decreasing in recent years because of mobility and change, friendliness and community has always been a mark of our neighborhood.

One of those original houses was built by the parents of the female half of my next door neighbors. I can look out my CPYU office window (which sits just across the street from that one entrance to our neighborhood), and still see that house. Tragically, my neighbor’s father succumbed to cancer several years ago. Then three years ago, his widow was killed in a car accident. The brick house they had built on Andrew Avenue went up for sale. I can still remember my next door neighbor coming over in 2006 and saying, “We sold the house. Guess who’s moving in?” I had no clue. He replied, “The sextuplet family.” I had read about the local family in the newspaper because of the multiple births. But I knew little more. At that point, I don’t think there was even a show. We were getting new neighbors. Not celebrities.

To be honest, I thought how fortunate it was that the Gosselin family was moving into a good neighborhood, especially under their circumstances. This was a family who would most likely need lots of help and support, and our neighbors had a history of generously giving it. In fact, back in 1991, the neighborhood pulled together to care for a young bed-ridden mother-to-be who lived in the house just across the street and to the left of the Gosselin house. She was locked-in a high-risk pregnancy with quadruplets. My wife, along with most of the other wives in the neighborhood, cooked their meals, tended to their needs, and sat for hours each day with the expectant mom over the course of several months. If help was needed, Westbrooke was a great place to find it.

But from the time they moved into the neighborhood until the time they left, generous offers of help, meals, etc. were turned away. . . and usually not with even a polite “thank-you.” The stories are multitude. And, they are consistent. These offers were not given to celebrities, but to neighbors in need. Nobody in our neighborhood was starstruck. . . simply because these were neighbors and not stars. In addition, there was a growing awareness that something was just not right. One member of the marriage would walk the kids in their six-seat stroller and was willing to engage neighbors in friendly conversation. The other immediately developed a reputation for being rude, self-centered, and demanding. Those in our neighborhood who had known that person for years were not surprised. Sadly, the one who ruled the roost set the tone, and it wasn’t good. Eventually, we never saw the friendlier half of the couple.

And now we know. The family’s choice to live their lives in front of the world has yielded undeniable evidence that the train has not only derailed, but wrecked.

Why am I passing this on? It is not to gossip. It is simply to pass on some limited yet accurate context about a situation that has gone public because the primary characters in this sad, sad drama have chosen to throw themselves - and their children - in the limelight. My blog is occasioned by the Gosselin story as told publicly to the world by the Gosselins themselves.

For a minute, remove all the rumors and stories (many of which are true), and think only about how the family has chosen to present themselves. Think too about the fact that when the cameras are on, we usually put on our best smiles and best behavior. . . and then think - long and hard - about what that best behavior has been on this particular show. Then, imagine what life is like and how people act when the cameras aren’t rolling. After taking that all into consideration, we shouldn’t be surprised by the train wreck that’s taken the world by storm.

The Gosselins moved out of our neighborhood just before last Thanksgiving to a new million and half dollar home. Ironically, we’re consistently told by one member of the family that money is scarce. To be honest, our little neighborhood is relieved that the publicity blitz went into high gear after they moved. Yes, the media still shows up to film their empty house and interview neighbors. I saw them here yesterday. But for me personally, knowing that the story is continuing to unfold, knowing that all kinds of people are responding and throwing around opinions, knowing that this has become the cultural event of the year, and knowing that 8 precious little lives are being forever shaped for life by both their parents’ decisions and the decisions of a world enamored by the story, I decided to break my silence and answer the question many who know I was a neighbor have recently asked. . . “What do you think?” So, let me weigh in. . .

First, none of us should be surprised by any of this. As I said before, all it took was a set of eyes, a couple of ears, and some basic common-sense and elementary-level discernment to know that the train that’s wrecked was coming off the tracks for a long, long time. In my travels I am continually stunned and even saddened by the parade of starstruck people who adore this family as Godly heroes and Christian role models. Where is the discernment? It’s not that the Gosselins are high-profile Christians who are going through the everyday struggles with sin. Rather, they’ve chosen to live a high profile life that is increasingly about eagerly embracing another way. Without a doubt, the kids are cute. Without a doubt, raising 8 young kids has to be difficult. But is that reason enough to overlook and even justify the horrible things that are being done and happening. . . and embrace a family that is obviously self-destructing before the world because of their habits and choices?

Second, we have to wonder why the train was allowed to continue to wreck even though it was heading off the tracks for a long, long time. Sadly, I think one or both of two things have happened. On the one hand, the people closest to Jon and Kate who could have been advising them wisely may have become so starstruck and enamored themselves that they didn’t want to compromise their ability to rub elbows on a regular basis with celebrity. They didn’t want to tell the emperor that he - or she - is not wearing any clothes. They didn’t say anything. On the other hand, the stars themselves are so self-absorbed that they don’t want to listen to anyone who might offer some good counsel, and yes - even Biblical advice. My guess is that it’s a combination of both. Those who have been known to have spoken up have been systematically removed by the powers-that-be from the system. The result is the emperor can remain naked without being bothered. . . all the while enjoying the fact that the whole world’s watching. Sadly, we’re now at the point of becoming embarrassed by the emperor’s ignorance.

Third, this train wreck called Jon & Kate Plus 8 offers a clear window into the human condition. . . and ourselves. This is a couple whose deep, deep narcissism has made them oblivious to each other, their kids, their extended family, old friends, wise living, and perhaps even the God they so blatantly claim to serve. It appears they’ve forgotten the everyday reality of their human depravity and the constant dangers that it poses. They’ve let down their guard. The evidence seems to point to the fact that they are eagerly engaged in the pursuit and worship of created things, rather than their Creator. Life has become about the things they can get. Kate is embracing the life of a diva. But they are not alone. Each of us has the seeds of the same thing sitting in our own hearts. While you and I can sit where we sit and pronounce it as wrong - and we should - I wonder what I would do if I had the opportunity to receive what they’ve received. I know what I should do. I can say what I think I would do. But I know what I’d be tempted to do. So if we are going to fulfill our responsibility to speak up and criticize, it had better be done in a humble spirit that recognizes beyond a shadow of a doubt that each of us is only one bad decision away from the same thing. . . or perhaps we’re already dealing with this stuff but not for the whole world to see.

Still, that’s not reason to remain silent when things are going horribly wrong. The chaos surrounding any kind of wreck requires analysis and intervention from people who still have their wits about them and who have some sense of not only what’s going on, but what to do. People who have been in wrecks usually aren’t in any condition to tend to themselves. They need outside help, and they need it fast.

Which leads me to this. . . we need to respond. Silence is not an option. One of the great lessons of history is that those who remain silent and uninvolved when a group of people are being oppressed (in this case, 8 small children) are not helping, but hurting the situation. Those people who choose to remain silent and not intervene by speaking up, have chosen to actively participate in the oppression. It’s guilt by silence. In this case, two parents and 8 little kids are laying wounded on the side of the road.

So let me humbly suggest some responses. . . because I don’t think it’s too late for this couple and their family. God is in the business of redeeming all kinds of situations. To Jon and Kate, it’s not too late for you to save your marriage and your family. To those who care about Jon and Kate (and we all should), it’s not too late to do your part to see this thing redeemed.

To Jon and Kate. . . I don’t regularly watch your show. I’ve seen bits and pieces as I channel surf, and sometimes I stop to watch just to see, well, who in the neighborhood you’ve caught on camera. I even thought I might make it on a few times. . . like the time I interrupted the kid’s bike-riding lessons by driving my car into the camera’s line of sight on a trip out of the neighborhood. I did, however, see the recent clip where you, Kate, lamented what’s happening through your tears. According to my newspaper, so did ten million other people. You expressed confusion and said you didn’t know what to do. I know you’re smarter than that. . . you have to be. Here’s what you need to do. . . and I believe you know it. . . pull the plug. Pull the plug and pull it now. The key to a redemptive and healthy resolution to this entire fiasco lies in your hands. From what I know, I think Jon will be right with you. Realize that the temptation will be to carry on so that you can accumulate fame and fortune. But as someone you and I both claim to know once said, “What does it profit a person to gain the whole world. . . and then lose his soul?”. . . or, her husband and children? Please understand that I pass this on with a full knowledge of my own weakness and depravity. I trust you understand that I say this humbly. Keep it all plugged in and you will be one very rich and famous lady. You will also be facilitating a life under public scrutiny for your kids. They will not have a childhood. Keeping it plugged in will steal their childhood, steal your family, and promote a culture of celebrity-obsession gone wild. Pull the plug and pull it now. Kate, if you don’t see what’s happening all around you then you are a very confused woman who is so out of touch with reality that you need an intervention. If you do see it and you choose to keep it all plugged in, then you’ve exposed what’s most important to you. Don’t be like the rich young ruler who knew what he had to do, but walked away very, very sad. Jon and Kate, if you don’t pull the plug, shame on you for what you’re doing to your kids. Kate, don’t let your definition of “multiple blessings” move from your 8 children. . . to the fame, fortune, and freebies that are now filling your life. If that’s what you choose to do, you are exploiting your kids. If you don’t pull the plug and pull it now, shame on you.

To TLC. . . you used to be called The Learning Channel. I wonder, what are you teaching Jon and Kate’s kids? What are you teaching your viewers? I wonder, do you ever think about the welfare of those 8 children over and above advertising revenues and skyrocketing ratings? The right thing for you to do is the same. Pull the plug, and pull it now. If not, you need to be held accountable. You are exploiting the Gosselin kids and their family. . . and we know you’re getting rich. And Jon and Kate, if TLC doesn’t let you go. . . then you know for sure that they don’t care one bit about you and your kids. TLC, if you don’t pull the plug and pull it now, shame on you.

To the Paparazzi. . . . are you kidding me? Put your cameras away. Leave these parents and their kids alone so that they can do the right thing and get their family back on track. I know you don’t care, but you are contributing to the ruin of 10 lives. Not only that, you are throwing chum that’s feeding a sick frenzy of celebrity-obsession that sells lots of magazines and makes lots of money. . . and which is also ruining an entire generation. Shame, shame, shame on you!

To Zondervan. . . Kate’s publisher. . . . and one of my publishers. . . you need to take a long hard look at what you are doing to promote a worldview, parenting style, and message about faith that I know doesn’t line-up with what has historically been your solid commitments as a publishing company. What Kate Gosselin is now promoting is a faith that is nothing more or less than the world with a thin veneer of Jesus-talk. I know you care about children, youth, and families. You’ve published numerous books to build the Kingdom of God and to equip strong families. For several reasons, you need to step up and pull the plug. Sure, Kate can go somewhere else and find a publisher if she so desires. But if the books you are selling don’t line up with reality, or if the books you are selling are contributing to a media fascination and frenzy that’s causing the loss of both childhood and the lifelong emotional health for 8 precious children. . . then please, pull the plug. If you don’t, shame on you.

To my brothers and sisters in Christ who have become so enamored with this family. . . exercise some discernment and do the right thing. Wake up and see what’s really happening with the Gosselin family. Women, if Kate is your role model. . . then shame on you. Pull the plug on your TV and your star-struck fascination and give this family back their privacy. Don’t watch. Realize that the two best things you can do for this family is to 1) pray for them, and 2) leave them alone. This may sound strong, but I truly believe it. . . If Jon, Kate, TLC, and others are exploiting this family, well, you know that makes us accomplices if we’re buying into it all. If you can’t funnel your fascination into this family away from voyeurism and exploitation and into prayer and privacy. . . then shame on you!

To the churches that are booking Jon and Kate to come speak. . . pull the plug. If you are truly about building the Kingdom and doing ministry. . . pull the plug. Do the Gosselins and your congregation a favor and don’t try to draw people in to your building by capitalizing on their celebrity-status. If you don’t break the engagements, shame on you.

And finally, to me. I know that I’m a part of the culture, the media world, the church, and the human race. While choosing to be silent would promote the downfall of this family, any words I speak about this situation have to come from an introspective heart that seeks humility, love, the Kingdom of God, and the greater good. What I say to myself is what I will say to everyone who is thinking about the Gosselins: You are no better. The seeds of what you don’t like in them live in you. Your life and family are far from perfect. Keep looking in the mirror to see where you might be doing the same things. . . although not in a highly-publicized and public way that the world can see. And if you/I don’t. . . then shame on you/me.

Jon and Kate, it’s not too late. You know that. This mess you’ve gotten yourselves into can be cleaned up and fixed. My prayer is not only that you will do the right thing, but that the rest of us who have contributed to derailing your family will do the right thing as well.

The serial bully appears to lack insight into his or her behaviour and seems to be oblivious to the crassness and inappropriateness thereof; however, it is more likely that the bully knows what they are doing but elects to switch off the moral and ethical considerations by which normal people are bound. If the bully knows what they are doing, they are responsible for their behaviour and thus liable for its consequences to other people. If the bully doesn’t know what they are doing, they should be suspended from duty on the grounds of diminished responsibility and the provisions of the Mental Health Act should apply.

That is not Leah, that is Alexis. Leah’s hair is the shortest, Alexis had the middle length hair, and Hannah has the really long hair. It is sad that I know this.

@Tim Field: tim get a life.

‘E’, #13 - I thought exactly the same thing you said. Right away I knew Kate told that child ‘cover your face and hide it against mommy’s shoulder’. Totally she is trying to be the other Kate! hahahahahahaha Too funny - what a loser this woman is. ‘Smile if you love mommy’ - I heard that on the ‘Chopper’ show - soooo insecure! Jon was tossing around some jabs agains Kate on that show. He is totally DONE and Kate is still playing make believe, lecturing and embarrassing that man. Keep running Jon, no one blames you!

“Most organisations have a serial bully. It never ceases to amaze me how one person’s divisive, disordered, dysfunctional behaviour can permeate the entire organisation like a cancer.”

Sheesh.What happened here? Did the Kate Booster Club show UP or did Pollyanna.com empty OUT out and show up here.

to bad jk and sue, same person, plagarized that and took it from a guy’s website…..don’t give sue the credit, she’s just one of the many copying what others have to say, they bookmark all sites about Gosselins because these people are OBSESSED!!!!!!! Sickos.

LOOK AT ME !!! I’m a good Mommy Dammit ! I’m doing the same thing as the great unwashed every day.I drive, I walk, I carry, I shop. I’m just like you ’cause I want your money, yet I’m much better because I have more of it.

The more they fight, the more they’re worth.

Jon and Kate Gosselin’s marriage woes have played out in national headlines and the end result is it’s increasing their net worth, RadarOnline.com has learned exclusively. The fate of their marriage may be murky but the state of their bank account (or accounts) is clear – healthy and growing.

A source close to the show revealed that both Jon and Kate are separately exploring more money-making ideas trading off their fame. They are actively consulting with experts for ways to rake in more cash.

Click here for photos of Jon & Kate through the years

Their net worth is already estimated in seven figures, with reports that they earn a minimum of $50,000 per show. There were 41 episodes of “Jon & Kate Plus 8” last season.

Watch our explosive interview with Kate’s brother Kevin Kreider, where he told RadarOnline.com the Gosselin family is in “shambles.”

Other money-making ventures include books plus appearance fees and charging for autographs. “Multiple Blessings” sold approximately 500,000 copies and Kate’s new book “8 Little Faces” should get a boost from the constant publicity surrounding their marriage.

5-a-Day Allowance
Wednesday May 27, 2009

CelebNews@Usmagazine.com! - Kate Gosselin Gave Jon a $5-a-Day Allowance The new issue of Us Weekly has even more details on Kate Gosselin’s tight leash on husband Jon, and the long, strange private dynamic between the deteriorating couple.

“She used to give him only $5 to spend, and if he was out and needed more money, she would give him hell,” his former employer at Style Craft Corp, David Rothermel, tells Us.

See adorable photos of the kids in the Gosselin family album

Rothermel, who fired Jon for misusing company resources and remembers college dropout Jon looking online all day for freebies for the sextuplets, also recalls a very-pregnant-with-sextuplets Kate storming into the office one day.

“She came in raising hell because Jon’s father was supposed to bring her lunch and he was late,” Rothermel recalls. “She got up out of bed rest to come in and yell at anyone who would listen!” (The Gosselins later publicly concocted a story that Jon was let go by Rothermel because the company didn’t want to insure the sextuplets.)

See photos of reality love gone bad

Also during that time, when a friend of Jon’s father donated a 14-passenger van to the family, Kate “never thanked him,” says a source close to Jon. Instead, “she traded it in because she hated the color burgundy.”

See what celebs look like with Kate Gosselin’s hairdo

During Monday’s season premiere, a beaten-down Jon revealed his lack of self-esteem. “I can’t write. Some people say I can’t talk or breathe right, either.” (Kate famously told him once to “stop breathing so loud.”) Also on the episode — the show’s highest-rated episode of all time — Kate admitted she’s “been hard” on Jon during the 10 years of their marriage.

“I would never deny that. I’ve always regretted it,” she says.

See photos of Jon Gosselin and his mistress

For more details on Kate’s terrifying control over Jon — including how she banned him from seeing his brothers after his father’s funeral, what you didn’t see on the TV premiere and how his lack of motivation and love of money have kept him with Kate — pick up the newest issue of Us Weekly, on stands today.

@g.f.: She looks out for her kids? Not if they are thirsty!!!

Even a creep like me thinks people who congratulate themselves for their own comment are subhumans that need to be gassed. sue ??

Inquirer

In the fifth-season debut of Jon & Kate Plus 8 on TLC on Monday night, the first part of the equation had dramatically shifted to Kate Minus Jon.

After months of tabloid rumors of infidelity, the tension in the Gosselin marriage was palpable. The media frenzy may have turbo-boosted ratings (the 1 hour, 13 minute debut claimed an astounding 9.8 million viewers, more than double the show’s previous apex), but the schism between Jon and Kate clearly was not a publicity stunt.

In a departure from previous seasons, the couple were by and large interviewed separately. They rarely even appeared in the same frame, and when they did, they studiously avoided eye contact. The atmosphere was frostier than a Zamboni’s tires.

At the prompting of producers, they each addressed the domestic discord presumably caused by reports of Jon’s philandering.

Looking sullen and defensive, Jon expressed remorse while denying that he had been unfaithful. “I take full blame,” he said. “I just didn’t think it would escalate into what it’s become.”

Kate, as is her wont, didn’t spare the rod. “I have a lot of anger,” she said. “. . . He’s made some very poor decisions and we all have to live with them.”

She groused constantly about his recent lack of involvement in running the household.

The situation may be more dire than the premiere made it seem. At a certain point, one of the sextuplets pleaded with her father, “Daddy, I don’t want you to leave anymore.”

With the kids becoming less of a focus, the show seems to be mutating from a family circus into a rancid soap opera.

Monday night was primarily about Kate’s driven attempt to be absolute mistress of her domain. She has become the Martha Stewart of maternity, juggling a book tour with organizing the perfect birthday party for her six 5-year-olds.

In the meantime, you can see the 9-year-old twins, Mady and Kara, being drawn into disturbingly adult roles as supplementary caregivers to their younger siblings. Say hello to mother’s little helpers.

Fans of the show know that Kate has always been domineering. In fact, hers is a rather appropriate name for such a shrewish woman.

She acknowledged her bossiness on Monday night, saying: “Have I been hard on him over the past 10 years we’ve been married? Absolutely! You have it on tape.”

Her dictatorial nature was only enhanced by her severe, sloping hairdo.

But until now, Kate’s henpecking of Jon was a shared ritual, part of their marital dynamic.

At this point, the two seem to be coexisting, uneasily at that, in the same house, staying together, not for the kids, but for the sake of the show.

The Jon & Kate phenomenon has taken on a startling momentum of its own. How weird is it that the biggest tabloid stars of late have been the Octomom and the Gosselins?

The idea that things change as soon as they are observed is never more true than on reality shows. As soon as you turn on the cameras, the subjects stop being people and turn into performers. That has been abundantly clear since the genre’s grandfather, The Real World, exploded on MTV in 1992.

What was supposed to be a documentary quickly becomes a job for the participants. And if you play your cards right, like Lauren Conrad on The Hills or Kate Gosselin on this show, it can carry you to remarkable heights of wealth and fame.

For his part, Jon is unhappy with the hand he’s been dealt. “It’s become a business,” he said ruefully on Monday’s debut. Kate is obviously more enthralled with her new lot in life.

What you don’t see as the Gosselins conduct their “everyday” lives are the bustling squadrons of camera crews, sound men, producers, and assistants constantly hovering just out of camera range.

The situation has reached new levels of absurdity as the omnipresent TV camera crews are now surrounded by a wider ring of paparazzi snapping away feverishly with their zoom lenses.

In one scene from the episode, the TLC TV crews filmed the photographers as they snapped Kate going into Rockefeller Center in Manhattan for a Today show interview. As Chandler said to Monica in a classic episode of Friends: “Exactly how many cameras were on you?”

The Gosselins have become the Brangelina of Berks County, their every move and utterance avidly captured and scrutinized.

While the couple complained repeatedly on Monday about the intrusion on their privacy, that hasn’t stopped them from taking advantage of every material possession their newfound notoriety has provided, including the expansive McMansion in Wernersville.

You can’t blame them for capitalizing on their opportunities, but it seems churlish to carp about conditions that they signed up for, circumstances that have so richly rewarded them.

That doesn’t stop Jon from gnawing on the hand that feeds him, soon after he turns up for the kids’ party in a flashy white sports car.

At the end of the episode, Jon and Kate are forced to sit on the same couch to address their current marital status. Not since Citizen Kane have we seen two people so divided by a single piece of furniture.

While they carefully tiptoe around it, neither one is willing to characterize or comment on their rocky relationship and its fragile future.

It’s remarkable how much this show has changed in one season - from Jon, Don’t You Dare Eat the Daisies to Who’s Afraid of Kate Gosselin?

Maybe it’s best that the kids have left the room

Inquirer

In the fifth-season debut of Jon & Kate Plus 8 on TLC on Monday night, the first part of the equation had dramatically shifted to Kate Minus Jon.

After months of tabloid rumors of infidelity, the tension in the Gosselin marriage was palpable. The media frenzy may have turbo-boosted ratings (the 1 hour, 13 minute debut claimed an astounding 9.8 million viewers, more than double the show’s previous apex), but the schism between Jon and Kate clearly was not a publicity stunt.

In a departure from previous seasons, the couple were by and large interviewed separately. They rarely even appeared in the same frame, and when they did, they studiously avoided eye contact. The atmosphere was frostier than a Zamboni’s tires.

At the prompting of producers, they each addressed the domestic discord presumably caused by reports of Jon’s philandering.

Looking sullen and defensive, Jon expressed remorse while denying that he had been unfaithful. “I take full blame,” he said. “I just didn’t think it would escalate into what it’s become.”

Kate, as is her wont, didn’t spare the rod. “I have a lot of anger,” she said. “. . . He’s made some very poor decisions and we all have to live with them.”

She groused constantly about his recent lack of involvement in running the household.

The situation may be more dire than the premiere made it seem. At a certain point, one of the sextuplets pleaded with her father, “Daddy, I don’t want you to leave anymore.”

With the kids becoming less of a focus, the show seems to be mutating from a family circus into a rancid soap opera.

Monday night was primarily about Kate’s driven attempt to be absolute mistress of her domain. She has become the Martha Stewart of maternity, juggling a book tour with organizing the perfect birthday party for her six 5-year-olds.

In the meantime, you can see the 9-year-old twins, Mady and Kara, being drawn into disturbingly adult roles as supplementary caregivers to their younger siblings. Say hello to mother’s little helpers.

Fans of the show know that Kate has always been domineering. In fact, hers is a rather appropriate name for such a shrewish woman.

She acknowledged her bossiness on Monday night, saying: “Have I been hard on him over the past 10 years we’ve been married? Absolutely! You have it on tape.”

Her dictatorial nature was only enhanced by her severe, sloping hairdo.

But until now, Kate’s henpecking of Jon was a shared ritual, part of their marital dynamic.

At this point, the two seem to be coexisting, uneasily at that, in the same house, staying together, not for the kids, but for the sake of the show.

The Jon & Kate phenomenon has taken on a startling momentum of its own. How weird is it that the biggest tabloid stars of late have been the Octomom and the Gosselins?

The idea that things change as soon as they are observed is never more true than on reality shows. As soon as you turn on the cameras, the subjects stop being people and turn into performers. That has been abundantly clear since the genre’s grandfather, The Real World, exploded on MTV in 1992.

What was supposed to be a documentary quickly becomes a job for the participants. And if you play your cards right, like Lauren Conrad on The Hills or Kate Gosselin on this show, it can carry you to remarkable heights of wealth and fame.

For his part, Jon is unhappy with the hand he’s been dealt. “It’s become a business,” he said ruefully on Monday’s debut. Kate is obviously more enthralled with her new lot in life.

What you don’t see as the Gosselins conduct their “everyday” lives are the bustling squadrons of camera crews, sound men, producers, and assistants constantly hovering just out of camera range.

The situation has reached new levels of absurdity as the omnipresent TV camera crews are now surrounded by a wider ring of paparazzi snapping away feverishly with their zoom lenses.

In one scene from the episode, the TLC TV crews filmed the photographers as they snapped Kate going into Rockefeller Center in Manhattan for a Today show interview. As Chandler said to Monica in a classic episode of Friends: “Exactly how many cameras were on you?”

The Gosselins have become the Brangelina of Berks County, their every move and utterance avidly captured and scrutinized.

While the couple complained repeatedly on Monday about the intrusion on their privacy, that hasn’t stopped them from taking advantage of every material possession their newfound notoriety has provided, including the expansive McMansion in Wernersville.

You can’t blame them for capitalizing on their opportunities, but it seems churlish to carp about conditions that they signed up for, circumstances that have so richly rewarded them.

That doesn’t stop Jon from gnawing on the hand that feeds him, soon after he turns up for the kids’ party in a flashy white sports car.

At the end of the episode, Jon and Kate are forced to sit on the same couch to address their current marital status. Not since Citizen Kane have we seen two people so divided by a single piece of furniture.

While they carefully tiptoe around it, neither one is willing to characterize or comment on their rocky relationship and its fragile future.

It’s remarkable how much this show has changed in one season - from Jon, Don’t You Dare Eat the Daisies to Who’s Afraid of Kate Gosselin?

Maybe it’s best that the kids have left the room

@Peeping Toms R Creepy: I agree. They know all the kids “as if they were there own!”
Some of us actually respect the kids enough NOT to examine each and every one and know all their favorite things. It is sick and Kate’s last book was a masturbation manual. There was one picture of one of the girls with her pans around her ankles and she was pulling her dress/shirt up! She was wearing underwear/pull up but that picture is NOT appropriate to be sold to the public. The public IS FILLED filled with sick individuals. Just get online, Megans Law, and you can see all the registered sex-offenders in your neighborhood.

Kate gets a bodyguard, or two. The kids? Not so much.

Some methods of cyberbullying are unique to a certain kind of cyberbullying motive. And so are the ways the cyberbully maintain their secrecy or broadcast their actions to others. Some are secretive, some require an audience and some are entirely inadvertent.

Because the motives differ from each type of cyberbully, the solutions need to address their special issues. There is no “one size fits all” when cyberbullying is concerned. But understanding more about why they cyberbully others will help. You have to address the motives. That’s why awareness campaigns need several different messages to address the problem.

“The Vengeful Angel”: In this type of cyberbullying, the cyberbully doesn’t see themselves as a bully at all. They see themselves as righting wrongs, or protecting themselves or others from the “bad guy” they are now victimizing. This includes situations when the victim of cyberbullying or offline bullying retaliates and becomes a cyberbully themselves They may be angry at something the victim did and feel they are taking warranted revenge or teaching the other a lesson. The “Vengeful Angel” cyberbully often gets involved trying to protect a friend who is being bullied or cyberbullied. They generally work alone, but may share their activities and motives with their close friends and others they perceive as being victimized by the person they are cyberbullying.

The “Power-Hungry” and “Revenge of the Nerds”: Just as their schoolyard counterparts, some cyberbullies want to exert their authority, show that they are powerful enough to make others do what they want and some want to control others with fear. Sometimes the kids want to hurt another kid. Sometimes they just don’t like the other kid. These are no different than the offline tough schoolyard bullies, except for their method. Power-Hungry” cyberbullies usually need an audience. It may be a small audience of their friends or those within their circle at school. Often the power they feel when only cyberbullying someone is not enough to feed their need to be seen as powerful and intimidating. They often brag about their actions. They want a reaction, and without one may escalate their activities to get one.

Interestingly enough, though, the “Power-Hungry” cyberbully is often the victim of typical offline bullying. They may be female, or physically smaller, the ones picked on for not being popular enough, or cool enough. They may have greater technical skills. Some people call this the “Revenge of the Nerds” cyberbullying. It is their intention to frighten or embarrass their victims. And they are empowered by the anonymity of the Internet and digital communications and the fact that they never have to confront their victim. They may act tough online, but are not tough in real life. They are often not a bullying but “just playing one on TV.”

This kind of cyberbullying usually takes place one-on-one and the cyberbully often keeps their activities secret from their friends. If they share their actions, they are doing it only with others they feel would be sympathetic. The rarely appreciate the seriousness of their actions, and often resort to cyberbullying-by-proxy. Because of this and their tech skills, can be the most dangerous of all cyberbullying.

“Mean Girls”: The last type of cyberbullying occurs when the cyberbully is bored or looking for entertainment. It is largely ego-based and the most immature of all cyberbullying types. Typically, in the “Mean Girls” bullying situations, the cyberbullies are female. They may be bullying other girls (most frequently) or boys (less frequently).

“Mean Girls” cyberbullying is usually done, or at least planned, in a group, either virtually or together in one room. This kind of cyberbullying is done for entertainment. It may occur from a school library or a slumber party, or from the familyroom of someone after school. This kind of cyberbullying requires an audience. The cyberbullies in a “mean girls” situation want others to know who they are and that they have the power to cyberbully others. This kind of cyberbullying grows when fed by group admiration, cliques or by the silence of others. It quickly dies if they don’t get the entertainment value they are seeking.

The Inadvertant Cyberbully: Inadvertant cyberbullies usually don’t think they are cyberbullies at all. They may be pretending to be tough online, or role playing, or they may be reacting to hateful or provocative messages they have received. Unlike the Revenge of the Nerds cyberbullies, they don’t lash out intentionally. They just respond without thinking about the consequences of their actions.

They may feel hurt, or angry because of a communication sent to them, or something they have seen online. And they tend to respond in anger or frustration. They don’t think before clicking “send.”

Sometimes, while experimenting in role-playing online, they may send cyberbullying communications or target someone without understanding how serious this could be. They do it for the heck of it “Because I Can.” They do it for the fun of it. They may also do it to one of their friends, joking around. But their friend may not recognize that it is another friend or make take it seriously. They tend to do this when alone, and are mostly surprised when someone accuses them of cyberabuse.

Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying.

Some methods of cyberbullying are unique to a certain kind of cyberbullying motive. And so are the ways the cyberbully maintain their secrecy or broadcast their actions to others. Some are secretive, some require an audience and some are entirely inadvertent.

Because the motives differ from each type of cyberbully, the solutions need to address their special issues. There is no “one size fits all” when cyberbullying is concerned. But understanding more about why they cyberbully others will help. You have to address the motives. That’s why awareness campaigns need several different messages to address the problem.

“The Vengeful Angel”: In this type of cyberbullying, the cyberbully doesn’t see themselves as a bully at all. They see themselves as righting wrongs, or protecting themselves or others from the “bad guy” they are now victimizing. This includes situations when the victim of cyberbullying or offline bullying retaliates and becomes a cyberbully themselves They may be angry at something the victim did and feel they are taking warranted revenge or teaching the other a lesson. The “Vengeful Angel” cyberbully often gets involved trying to protect a friend who is being bullied or cyberbullied. They generally work alone, but may share their activities and motives with their close friends and others they perceive as being victimized by the person they are cyberbullying.

The “Power-Hungry” and “Revenge of the Nerds”: Just as their schoolyard counterparts, some cyberbullies want to exert their authority, show that they are powerful enough to make others do what they want and some want to control others with fear. Sometimes the kids want to hurt another kid. Sometimes they just don’t like the other kid. These are no different than the offline tough schoolyard bullies, except for their method. Power-Hungry” cyberbullies usually need an audience. It may be a small audience of their friends or those within their circle at school. Often the power they feel when only cyberbullying someone is not enough to feed their need to be seen as powerful and intimidating. They often brag about their actions. They want a reaction, and without one may escalate their activities to get one.

Interestingly enough, though, the “Power-Hungry” cyberbully is often the victim of typical offline bullying. They may be female, or physically smaller, the ones picked on for not being popular enough, or cool enough. They may have greater technical skills. Some people call this the “Revenge of the Nerds” cyberbullying. It is their intention to frighten or embarrass their victims. And they are empowered by the anonymity of the Internet and digital communications and the fact that they never have to confront their victim. They may act tough online, but are not tough in real life. They are often not a bullying but “just playing one on TV.”

This kind of cyberbullying usually takes place one-on-one and the cyberbully often keeps their activities secret from their friends. If they share their actions, they are doing it only with others they feel would be sympathetic. The rarely appreciate the seriousness of their actions, and often resort to cyberbullying-by-proxy. Because of this and their tech skills, can be the most dangerous of all cyberbullying.

“Mean Girls”: The last type of cyberbullying occurs when the cyberbully is bored or looking for entertainment. It is largely ego-based and the most immature of all cyberbullying types. Typically, in the “Mean Girls” bullying situations, the cyberbullies are female. They may be bullying other girls (most frequently) or boys (less frequently).

“Mean Girls” cyberbullying is usually done, or at least planned, in a group, either virtually or together in one room. This kind of cyberbullying is done for entertainment. It may occur from a school library or a slumber party, or from the familyroom of someone after school. This kind of cyberbullying requires an audience. The cyberbullies in a “mean girls” situation want others to know who they are and that they have the power to cyberbully others. This kind of cyberbullying grows when fed by group admiration, cliques or by the silence of others. It quickly dies if they don’t get the entertainment value they are seeking.

The Inadvertant Cyberbully: Inadvertant cyberbullies usually don’t think they are cyberbullies at all. They may be pretending to be tough online, or role playing, or they may be reacting to hateful or provocative messages they have received. Unlike the Revenge of the Nerds cyberbullies, they don’t lash out intentionally. They just respond without thinking about the consequences of their actions.

They may feel hurt, or angry because of a communication sent to them, or something they have seen online. And they tend to respond in anger or frustration. They don’t think before clicking “send.”

Sometimes, while experimenting in role-playing online, they may send cyberbullying communications or target someone without understanding how serious this could be. They do it for the heck of it “Because I Can.” They do it for the fun of it. They may also do it to one of their friends, joking around. But their friend may not recognize that it is another friend or make take it seriously. They tend to do this when alone, and are mostly surprised when someone accuses them of cyberabuse.

Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying.

Some methods of cyberbullying are unique to a certain kind of cyberbullying motive. And so are the ways the cyberbully maintain their secrecy or broadcast their actions to others. Some are secretive, some require an audience and some are entirely inadvertent.

Because the motives differ from each type of cyberbully, the solutions need to address their special issues. There is no “one size fits all” when cyberbullying is concerned. But understanding more about why they cyberbully others will help. You have to address the motives. That’s why awareness campaigns need several different messages to address the problem.

“The Vengeful Angel”: In this type of cyberbullying, the cyberbully doesn’t see themselves as a bully at all. They see themselves as righting wrongs, or protecting themselves or others from the “bad guy” they are now victimizing. This includes situations when the victim of cyberbullying or offline bullying retaliates and becomes a cyberbully themselves They may be angry at something the victim did and feel they are taking warranted revenge or teaching the other a lesson. The “Vengeful Angel” cyberbully often gets involved trying to protect a friend who is being bullied or cyberbullied. They generally work alone, but may share their activities and motives with their close friends and others they perceive as being victimized by the person they are cyberbullying.

The “Power-Hungry” and “Revenge of the Nerds”: Just as their schoolyard counterparts, some cyberbullies want to exert their authority, show that they are powerful enough to make others do what they want and some want to control others with fear. Sometimes the kids want to hurt another kid. Sometimes they just don’t like the other kid. These are no different than the offline tough schoolyard bullies, except for their method. Power-Hungry” cyberbullies usually need an audience. It may be a small audience of their friends or those within their circle at school. Often the power they feel when only cyberbullying someone is not enough to feed their need to be seen as powerful and intimidating. They often brag about their actions. They want a reaction, and without one may escalate their activities to get one.

Interestingly enough, though, the “Power-Hungry” cyberbully is often the victim of typical offline bullying. They may be female, or physically smaller, the ones picked on for not being popular enough, or cool enough. They may have greater technical skills. Some people call this the “Revenge of the Nerds” cyberbullying. It is their intention to frighten or embarrass their victims. And they are empowered by the anonymity of the Internet and digital communications and the fact that they never have to confront their victim. They may act tough online, but are not tough in real life. They are often not a bullying but “just playing one on TV.”

This kind of cyberbullying usually takes place one-on-one and the cyberbully often keeps their activities secret from their friends. If they share their actions, they are doing it only with others they feel would be sympathetic. The rarely appreciate the seriousness of their actions, and often resort to cyberbullying-by-proxy. Because of this and their tech skills, can be the most dangerous of all cyberbullying.

“Mean Girls”: The last type of cyberbullying occurs when the cyberbully is bored or looking for entertainment. It is largely ego-based and the most immature of all cyberbullying types. Typically, in the “Mean Girls” bullying situations, the cyberbullies are female. They may be bullying other girls (most frequently) or boys (less frequently).

“Mean Girls” cyberbullying is usually done, or at least planned, in a group, either virtually or together in one room. This kind of cyberbullying is done for entertainment. It may occur from a school library or a slumber party, or from the familyroom of someone after school. This kind of cyberbullying requires an audience. The cyberbullies in a “mean girls” situation want others to know who they are and that they have the power to cyberbully others. This kind of cyberbullying grows when fed by group admiration, cliques or by the silence of others. It quickly dies if they don’t get the entertainment value they are seeking.

The Inadvertant Cyberbully: Inadvertant cyberbullies usually don’t think they are cyberbullies at all. They may be pretending to be tough online, or role playing, or they may be reacting to hateful or provocative messages they have received. Unlike the Revenge of the Nerds cyberbullies, they don’t lash out intentionally. They just respond without thinking about the consequences of their actions.

They may feel hurt, or angry because of a communication sent to them, or something they have seen online. And they tend to respond in anger or frustration. They don’t think before clicking “send.”

Sometimes, while experimenting in role-playing online, they may send cyberbullying communications or target someone without understanding how serious this could be. They do it for the heck of it “Because I Can.” They do it for the fun of it. They may also do it to one of their friends, joking around. But their friend may not recognize that it is another friend or make take it seriously. They tend to do this when alone, and are mostly surprised when someone accuses them of cyberabuse.

Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjohryb6xAU

Looks like my defenders and fans are just as stoopit and cement headed as me. Eugenics now!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjohryb6xAU

Would you creepy fans just leave me the hell alone. I mean really, get a life and stop trying to live through mine. Fans are weird and the pedophiles are getting annoying to. I only want money, I don’t want the fans to go along with it. Why couldn’t I have fans like Katie Holmes, her fans are sane and mine are all wackos. Again, you nut jobs like the one called babyMama just leave me the hell alone, please!

It bears repeating: Kate has cankles.

boy she has got chunky legs. Why is she wearing all the short skirts? High heels do not hide those thick legs.

I hope Kate shops till she drops, literally , & Deanna takes over the part of Mommy. Then I’ll watch again.

@k.g.:
AMEN I AGREE WITH YOU I KNOW THINGS WILL GET BETTER!!!!

Her lower body looks like Pan’s, the mythical Greek god of forests and woodland creatures.

People may tell you what you want to hear, but trust me, Kate….you have thick, chunky legs.

When you get to the link, just type in last part of the link where it says take me back.

Of course would we expect any less of her?
Where did her “Christianity” go? I would never set foot in a store on a Sunday morning… last time I checked isn’t SUNDAY the day she said they went to church????? Yeah right Kate.

Kate is what is known as a “mouth beather.” Eeeewwwww.

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LOL! Good one!!

this is like an exact copy of suri and katie holmes pics

#199 - YES it is. Pathetic woman, so needy and insecure. Imagine what she told that little girl to do(quick hide your eyes, put your head on my shoulder or it’s nap time with no water!!) - how scary is that????

I hope it is not that bodyguard. If it is, she is a bad mother. The past shows were so good and simple, now, it is complicated!
I hope it is not true that she is having an affair with that married bodyguard. I pity her children if it is true! What a shame! It started well and now this complication because of her ego. That man should know better to break up her family and his all because she is rich now!
What a shame again!
I hope the American people who watch her shows will protect her children and ensure that they are taken care of when Jon and Kate go to the divorce court!
It is a great shame!!!!!!!!!!

Kate,

You know you scared that little girl about the “P-People”. You have put thoughts in her head before, you wanted to look like Katie Holmes and Suri. Everyone knows you work with justjared and the paps. You are nothing but a scam artist, child exploiter and fame *****. Britney at this point has more class than you do. Shame on TLC and Kate’s handlers….she’s cracking up, I guess you are going to let her “ruin” her kids as she says.

gossip monsters @ 06/14/2009 at 10:47 pm

Dear…you sound desperate with all that ranting. Take a break from the computer for awhile.

haha E got her name from her favorite gossip site and tv show, E! for the reality obsessed and the dirt on Kate, E cannot unglue her mad cow fat ass from her chair long enough, sooooooo, E, heard your local super market is having a sale on Ben and Jerry’s, you better go stock up, or wait, maybe your welfare dollars cannot afford the prime in ice cream, maybe you should go for the MAD COW brand. Go take your tent wearing ass and take your own break from the puter, you probably go into an asthma attack just walking to your refrigerator, or do you keep one by your bedside with your laptop, you probably pee in a bed pan too.

I make my own cheese in the folds of my fat thighs. The hotter the weather the sharper it gets. yummmm

I’m so obese I use a back scratcher to wipe my azz and cooch

I am personally offended by the attacks on Kate . I want you all to knowthat I cry myself asleep at night at the horrrible things the Kate bashers say . I lose .

you know what is sad, that poster is probably in her 30’s or 40’s and acting like a 12 year old. And give me Kate’s panties, I want a courteousy sniff! Share, are they edible unawears?

If you are going to cut and paste from other blogs and articles, you need to give them credit.
ALSO, post once. Please. It’s quite annoying to seem the same post over and over.

@abbie: Oh Abby, she took her lover to San Diego and Mady tagged along. Keep drinking the kool-aid! YES, a woman who wears a short dress and bends and poses for the paps is ASKING to have her goodies exposed. SHE CALLS THE PAPS!! Keep loving exploiting kids, Abby. Adults who get enjoyment from children on TV should be ashamed of themselves.

I admit it I am a child pimp. I can’t resist the cash. I learned my craft in the trailer park as a child along side of my father who is a Minister. He had a way of chiseling money from the ignorant and to the point where they would beg him to take their money. I’ve been able to do the same. You can see how I’ve managed to influence complete strangers into defending the indefensible. What can I say, it’s a talent. By the way, I never respect people who are so easily fooled by me so it looks like you have wasted your time, sorry. Just Will me all your money and thanks in advance.

#211 - ‘not a bad mother’, are you kidding me? She shows favouritism (it’s right there in front of your eyes), threatens her children without food or water, locks them in rooms, calls her boys ‘dirty’ , ‘disgusting’ and ‘gross’ (to name a few). Being so abusive to her husband IS being a bad mother - look where it got her children. And YES her CONSTANT ranting, berating, embarrassing and belittling her husband IS a huge factor. Any parent that abuses the other parent does indeed make them a bad parent.

@GWOP (Gals With OUT PURPOSE): you are a fat ass jealous cow thats why you have time to bug everyone else go back to baby mamas site shes your gay mate.

@Lisakisapsycho: you are an ass this is a public blog most everyone here cant stand kate deal with it shes a train wreck. Even her church kicked her out her hudband went on to much younger and hotter girls her kids call her mean she only has her mental fans to bad.

@gossip monsters: BABY MAMA PLEASE WE KNOW YOUR JEALOUS BECAUSE KATE IS SUCH A TRAIN WRECK SO GO BACK TO YOUR SITE AN KISS SOME ASS.

@Waterkate says it all:
Children shouldn’t be on TV? According to you? The what expert?

No children should be on tv.

12:47- Sounds like you got your a** handed to you by the AMAZING Lisa & her AWESOME friends on Lisa’s site. GOOD! You’re a little bitter but if I had to be you,I’d be bitter to I guess. LISA ROCKS & WE LOVE HER & THAT BUGS THE CRAP OUTTA YOU DOESN’T IT? HA HA HA!!!!!

how old are you? you act 12, neener neener, lisa’s got a weiner! In that site, she does have one in her tranny mouth, check it out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT ROCKS

Rowberta, dat der lingo of urs, oofda, yous sounds like yous from a minneesotaw farm, u betchyaw, eh?

Travis, thanks for the link, that is hilarious! The mustache, too much! lol

Theresa, lmfao! Thanks girlie! I’ll sent it to debbie next.

OH MY GAWD! the facial hair and the one on her knees with, um yeah, you got her on that one!

the nude one of her in birckenstocks is my favorite and Deb’s too. The one with the booze bottle too.

abs, who cares, wouldn’t try to go on her site if I wanted to after her vile poetry posts and her little netbully friends, we got what we wanted, and the new site is hilarious, you should check it out! heheheheheeeee teee heeee *flips hair* *snaps gum* jealous of a tranny face? nope sorry, Kate is way prettier then the lisa he she photos, TRUST me *roflmao* and she is exposed in a umm, huge way *snickers* she’ll cry when she sees these photos, deserves it for the way she and her little battle axe clan net bullies anyone who doesn’t go along with their Kate hate, and the captions on lisa’s photos, are way better then the one’s lisa has of Kate’s waaayyyyyy better and the clan that helped put it together, bravo beotches.

As scandalous headlines continue to surround Kate Gosselin, her husband Jon, and their eight kids, the fed-up reality star is wondering when people will stop attacking her.

“Before this, I’d never stood on line at the grocery store, looked at the people on the cover of magazines, and thought about what they’re going through,” she tells PEOPLE. “I’d never thought, ‘Oh my god, this is totally doing them in.’ But now, I understand what they live with: Everywhere you go you’re being stalked, you’re being followed – it’s hell, on the cover of a magazine.”

Kate admits she’s often been an easy target for those who want to make her out to seem like a monster. “In the first two and a half years that we were doing the show (Jon & Kate Plus Eight), I felt very ugly towards fans,” she says. “The gawking, that sort of response creeped me out. I was not willing or ready to accept what you get back when you put your life out there.”

But over time, Kate learned to embrace the attention. “At some point, I turned around and I realized, ‘Okay, people are pulling for us, the feel inspired by us, they love us. It clicked: without the fans there is no show, without the show, there is no job.”

A Breaking Point
Though the Gosselins have gotten used to interest in their lives, the scrutiny of Jon and Kate has become increasingly intense since reports of the couple’s alleged infidelities hit the newsstands. It’s tough to escape when the job that keeps their family afloat is also keeping them in the tabloid glare – and even the tough-minded mama has her breaking point.

“It’s so scary,” she says of the lengths to which some go to cover her family. “It’s like one of those movies where you have to change your identity and go underground. I’ve been saying, ‘Let’s find a country where our show doesn’t air, and let’s just go there until this all dies.’ I have to laugh about this, or else I’ll cry. It’s a matter of, when will they stop?”

No matter what might be said about her, Kate says if anyone really wants to see her bare her fangs, they only have to go after her kids. “I don’t want them dragged into this. It kills me,” she says. “I’m far from perfect, but I’ve started to prioritize what is important, what has to change, what I can live with, and what I have to live with. My children are important. My attitude is important. My marriage is important, and though I don’t know where that’s going right now, I know I can definitely choose my attitude. And I know that I will never give up, I will not stop, I will not fail my kids. Everything else I can’t control, I’m just going to have to learn to live with it.”

As scandalous headlines continue to surround Kate Gosselin, her husband Jon, and their eight kids, the fed-up reality star is wondering when people will stop attacking her.

“Before this, I’d never stood on line at the grocery store, looked at the people on the cover of magazines, and thought about what they’re going through,” she tells PEOPLE. “I’d never thought, ‘Oh my god, this is totally doing them in.’ But now, I understand what they live with: Everywhere you go you’re being stalked, you’re being followed – it’s hell, on the cover of a magazine.”

Kate admits she’s often been an easy target for those who want to make her out to seem like a monster. “In the first two and a half years that we were doing the show (Jon & Kate Plus Eight), I felt very ugly towards fans,” she says. “The gawking, that sort of response creeped me out. I was not willing or ready to accept what you get back when you put your life out there.”

But over time, Kate learned to embrace the attention. “At some point, I turned around and I realized, ‘Okay, people are pulling for us, the feel inspired by us, they love us. It clicked: without the fans there is no show, without the show, there is no job.”

A Breaking Point
Though the Gosselins have gotten used to interest in their lives, the scrutiny of Jon and Kate has become increasingly intense since reports of the couple’s alleged infidelities hit the newsstands. It’s tough to escape when the job that keeps their family afloat is also keeping them in the tabloid glare – and even the tough-minded mama has her breaking point.

“It’s so scary,” she says of the lengths to which some go to cover her family. “It’s like one of those movies where you have to change your identity and go underground. I’ve been saying, ‘Let’s find a country where our show doesn’t air, and let’s just go there until this all dies.’ I have to laugh about this, or else I’ll cry. It’s a matter of, when will they stop?”

No matter what might be said about her, Kate says if anyone really wants to see her bare her fangs, they only have to go after her kids. “I don’t want them dragged into this. It kills me,” she says. “I’m far from perfect, but I’ve started to prioritize what is important, what has to change, what I can live with, and what I have to live with. My children are important. My attitude is important. My marriage is important, and though I don’t know where that’s going right now, I know I can definitely choose my attitude. And I know that I will never give up, I will not stop, I will not fail my kids. Everything else I can’t control, I’m just going to have to learn to live with it.”

As scandalous headlines continue to surround Kate Gosselin, her husband Jon, and their eight kids, the fed-up reality star is wondering when people will stop attacking her.

“Before this, I’d never stood on line at the grocery store, looked at the people on the cover of magazines, and thought about what they’re going through,” she tells PEOPLE. “I’d never thought, ‘Oh my god, this is totally doing them in.’ But now, I understand what they live with: Everywhere you go you’re being stalked, you’re being followed – it’s hell, on the cover of a magazine.”

Kate admits she’s often been an easy target for those who want to make her out to seem like a monster. “In the first two and a half years that we were doing the show (Jon & Kate Plus Eight), I felt very ugly towards fans,” she says. “The gawking, that sort of response creeped me out. I was not willing or ready to accept what you get back when you put your life out there.”

But over time, Kate learned to embrace the attention. “At some point, I turned around and I realized, ‘Okay, people are pulling for us, the feel inspired by us, they love us. It clicked: without the fans there is no show, without the show, there is no job.”

A Breaking Point
Though the Gosselins have gotten used to interest in their lives, the scrutiny of Jon and Kate has become increasingly intense since reports of the couple’s alleged infidelities hit the newsstands. It’s tough to escape when the job that keeps their family afloat is also keeping them in the tabloid glare – and even the tough-minded mama has her breaking point.

“It’s so scary,” she says of the lengths to which some go to cover her family. “It’s like one of those movies where you have to change your identity and go underground. I’ve been saying, ‘Let’s find a country where our show doesn’t air, and let’s just go there until this all dies.’ I have to laugh about this, or else I’ll cry. It’s a matter of, when will they stop?”

No matter what might be said about her, Kate says if anyone really wants to see her bare her fangs, they only have to go after her kids. “I don’t want them dragged into this. It kills me,” she says. “I’m far from perfect, but I’ve started to prioritize what is important, what has to change, what I can live with, and what I have to live with. My children are important. My attitude is important. My marriage is important, and though I don’t know where that’s going right now, I know I can definitely choose my attitude. And I know that I will never give up, I will not stop, I will not fail my kids. Everything else I can’t control, I’m just going to have to learn to live with it.”

As scandalous headlines continue to surround Kate Gosselin, her husband Jon, and their eight kids, the fed-up reality star is wondering when people will stop attacking her.

“Before this, I’d never stood on line at the grocery store, looked at the people on the cover of magazines, and thought about what they’re going through,” she tells PEOPLE. “I’d never thought, ‘Oh my god, this is totally doing them in.’ But now, I understand what they live with: Everywhere you go you’re being stalked, you’re being followed – it’s hell, on the cover of a magazine.”

Kate admits she’s often been an easy target for those who want to make her out to seem like a monster. “In the first two and a half years that we were doing the show (Jon & Kate Plus Eight), I felt very ugly towards fans,” she says. “The gawking, that sort of response creeped me out. I was not willing or ready to accept what you get back when you put your life out there.”

But over time, Kate learned to embrace the attention. “At some point, I turned around and I realized, ‘Okay, people are pulling for us, the feel inspired by us, they love us. It clicked: without the fans there is no show, without the show, there is no job.”

A Breaking Point
Though the Gosselins have gotten used to interest in their lives, the scrutiny of Jon and Kate has become increasingly intense since reports of the couple’s alleged infidelities hit the newsstands. It’s tough to escape when the job that keeps their family afloat is also keeping them in the tabloid glare – and even the tough-minded mama has her breaking point.

“It’s so scary,” she says of the lengths to which some go to cover her family. “It’s like one of those movies where you have to change your identity and go underground. I’ve been saying, ‘Let’s find a country where our show doesn’t air, and let’s just go there until this all dies.’ I have to laugh about this, or else I’ll cry. It’s a matter of, when will they stop?”

No matter what might be said about her, Kate says if anyone really wants to see her bare her fangs, they only have to go after her kids. “I don’t want them dragged into this. It kills me,” she says. “I’m far from perfect, but I’ve started to prioritize what is important, what has to change, what I can live with, and what I have to live with. My children are important. My attitude is important. My marriage is important, and though I don’t know where that’s going right now, I know I can definitely choose my attitude. And I know that I will never give up, I will not stop, I will not fail my kids. Everything else I can’t control, I’m just going to have to learn to live with it.”

As scandalous headlines continue to surround Kate Gosselin, her husband Jon, and their eight kids, the fed-up reality star is wondering when people will stop attacking her.

“Before this, I’d never stood on line at the grocery store, looked at the people on the cover of magazines, and thought about what they’re going through,” she tells PEOPLE. “I’d never thought, ‘Oh my god, this is totally doing them in.’ But now, I understand what they live with: Everywhere you go you’re being stalked, you’re being followed – it’s hell, on the cover of a magazine.”

Kate admits she’s often been an easy target for those who want to make her out to seem like a monster. “In the first two and a half years that we were doing the show (Jon & Kate Plus Eight), I felt very ugly towards fans,” she says. “The gawking, that sort of response creeped me out. I was not willing or ready to accept what you get back when you put your life out there.”

But over time, Kate learned to embrace the attention. “At some point, I turned around and I realized, ‘Okay, people are pulling for us, the feel inspired by us, they love us. It clicked: without the fans there is no show, without the show, there is no job.”

A Breaking Point
Though the Gosselins have gotten used to interest in their lives, the scrutiny of Jon and Kate has become increasingly intense since reports of the couple’s alleged infidelities hit the newsstands. It’s tough to escape when the job that keeps their family afloat is also keeping them in the tabloid glare – and even the tough-minded mama has her breaking point.

“It’s so scary,” she says of the lengths to which some go to cover her family. “It’s like one of those movies where you have to change your identity and go underground. I’ve been saying, ‘Let’s find a country where our show doesn’t air, and let’s just go there until this all dies.’ I have to laugh about this, or else I’ll cry. It’s a matter of, when will they stop?”

No matter what might be said about her, Kate says if anyone really wants to see her bare her fangs, they only have to go after her kids. “I don’t want them dragged into this. It kills me,” she says. “I’m far from perfect, but I’ve started to prioritize what is important, what has to change, what I can live with, and what I have to live with. My children are important. My attitude is important. My marriage is important, and though I don’t know where that’s going right now, I know I can definitely choose my attitude. And I know that I will never give up, I will not stop, I will not fail my kids. Everything else I can’t control, I’m just going to have to learn to live with it.”

@crying in my soup lol: GOOD ONE NCL